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Kids aren’t for everyone. Please don’t guilt-trip people for not having them. (I know this article isn’t doing that.) https://wearechildfree.com/ https://weare

by jen729w 7mo ago

Kids aren’t for everyone. Please don’t guilt-trip people for not having them. (I know this article isn’t doing that.) https://wearechildfree.com/ https://wearechildfree.com/ Disclosure: Zoë is my cousin.

eloisant 7mo ago
Of course people are free not to have kids... But I've always find it weird to "celebrates childfree lives". And I'm frankly annoyed by the growing activism to ban kids from public places in the name of "adults quietness".
- whateveracct 7mo ago
  many adults nowadays are less resilient than my baby
- markus_zhang 7mo ago
  As a parent I'm kinda cool with that. Adults, especially middle-age family adults, are not really supported in this world and they should enjoy whatever the peace they can get. If my kid gets too grumpy I'd bring him out for a walk and he is usually happier after that. Ofc no escape on trains/buses, but he loves those, so that's fine.
- pm90 7mo ago
  We celebrate the other option so why not celebrate child free lives? It seems like historically a lot of people have had to make this decision not by their own will or need. Showing people that they can have just as compelling lives as parents is a net-good.
- jen729w 7mo ago
  > But I've always find it weird to "celebrates childfree lives". It's more about making it clear to other people that hassling me to have kids is not okay. My bestie is Australian-Italian. My god the shit she's got from her family over her life. At one point in her early 40s she told me she stopped going to family gatherings, such was the incessant pressure from relatives. We need to understand that some people – me and my partner are two of them – do not like and do not want children. So please, for the love of god, stop asking women about it. (Nobody asks me, a dude, fwiw.)
gametorch 7mo ago
> Tired of doing this alone? That's some pretty ironic copy xD
xyzelement 7mo ago
No guilt trip but hard to say this is a timeless and universal approach.

by jen729w 7mo ago

eloisant 7mo ago

Of course people are free not to have kids... But I've always find it weird to "celebrates childfree lives". And I'm frankly annoyed by the growing activism to ban kids from public places in the name of "adults quietness".

whateveracct 7mo ago
many adults nowadays are less resilient than my baby
markus_zhang 7mo ago
As a parent I'm kinda cool with that. Adults, especially middle-age family adults, are not really supported in this world and they should enjoy whatever the peace they can get. If my kid gets too grumpy I'd bring him out for a walk and he is usually happier after that. Ofc no escape on trains/buses, but he loves those, so that's fine.
pm90 7mo ago
We celebrate the other option so why not celebrate child free lives? It seems like historically a lot of people have had to make this decision not by their own will or need. Showing people that they can have just as compelling lives as parents is a net-good.
jen729w 7mo ago
> But I've always find it weird to "celebrates childfree lives". It's more about making it clear to other people that hassling me to have kids is not okay. My bestie is Australian-Italian. My god the shit she's got from her family over her life. At one point in her early 40s she told me she stopped going to family gatherings, such was the incessant pressure from relatives. We need to understand that some people – me and my partner are two of them – do not like and do not want children. So please, for the love of god, stop asking women about it. (Nobody asks me, a dude, fwiw.)

gametorch 7mo ago

> Tired of doing this alone? That's some pretty ironic copy xD

xyzelement 7mo ago

No guilt trip but hard to say this is a timeless and universal approach.