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> Nobody will fall in love and start a relationship/family with you for showing up and fulfilling some list of criteria. The "date-me doc" community might disa
by aleph_minus_one 8mo ago
> Nobody will fall in love and start a relationship/family with you for showing up and fulfilling some list of criteria.
The "date-me doc" community might disagree:
* https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/02/style/date-me-docs.html https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/02/style/date-me-docs.html
* https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/in-defense-of-describable-dating https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/in-defense-of-describable-d...
* https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/highlights-from-the-comments-on-dating https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/highlights-from-the-comment...
- washadjeffmad 8mo agoI recently dated a DMA in her 30s, and while incredibly talented and respected within her field, she had no experience sharing a life with someone else. As selfish and unfair as she said she felt, she wasn't wasn't ever willing to compromise. I'm not new to dating educated professionals, and it seems to be an unfortunate recurrence balancing being torn between wanting a partner and family and worrying that any misstep could jeopardize their career or cost them opportunity.
- aleph_minus_one 8mo ago> I'm not new to dating educated professionals, and it seems to be an unfortunate recurrence balancing being torn between wanting a partner and family and worrying that any misstep could jeopardize their career or cost them opportunity. There exist a large number of very smart people who are not that career-obsessed (the traits that you need for a fast career are rather different from "highly smart"). I consider it to be likely that you value character traits that made the partner predestinied for a successful career, but don't like the fact that because of this, they are often obsessed about their career.