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It sounds like the people you work with are “phonies”. You may have already heard this advice, but try to make friends outside of work. Maybe with other parents

It sounds like the people you work with are “phonies”. You may have already heard this advice, but try to make friends outside of work. Maybe with other parents? It can seem untrue, but there are still lots of communities online and offline. Also regarding “people in the US are friendly, people elsewhere are unfriendly” (which IMO is incorrect but users are being too harsh on you). Most people in the southern US are generally known for appearing friendly and extroverted, while most in Eastern Europe appear “cold” and introverted. It’s a culture thing. But there are people who pretend to be friendly while spreading rumors behind your back (as you’ve experienced) and not committing to anything; likewise, some cold people are very nice if you get to know them, and would immediately help anyone in need, they just don’t like smalltalk with strangers. “You can’t judge a book by its cover”: there are friendly and unfriendly people everywhere, look for those who demonstrate commitment (act friendly and help others in ways that require effort or don’t improve their appearance).

owlcompliance 8mo ago
I think you're right. Regarding my view on US vs. Eastern Europe, I think you're also right and your words changed my perspective. I think I was being inconsiderate in my assessment in that just because cultures are different, doesn't mean this person in that given country will actually help you more than that other person. As you said, I'm literally experiencing "nice" people that are talking behind my back right now, so yeah, that definitely says something, as well. Thank you for your thoughtful and edifying perspective. I really appreciate your words man. Feeling a lot better today, but still going through a lot of other things; it's a lonely road, but this is life. Other people are going through worse things. People like you and others in this comments section are a breath of fresh air to me, in my real, non-digital life.

owlcompliance 8mo ago

I think you're right. Regarding my view on US vs. Eastern Europe, I think you're also right and your words changed my perspective. I think I was being inconsiderate in my assessment in that just because cultures are different, doesn't mean this person in that given country will actually help you more than that other person. As you said, I'm literally experiencing "nice" people that are talking behind my back right now, so yeah, that definitely says something, as well. Thank you for your thoughtful and edifying perspective. I really appreciate your words man. Feeling a lot better today, but still going through a lot of other things; it's a lonely road, but this is life. Other people are going through worse things. People like you and others in this comments section are a breath of fresh air to me, in my real, non-digital life.