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Aside from the part where you have to raise them, sure.

jliptzin 7mo ago
If everyone had kids at 18-20, then the grandparents could take care of the grandkids while in their 40s while the parents build their careers from 20-40, then start taking care of the grandkids as the cycle repeats
- bad_haircut72 7mo ago
  Peoples 40s and 50s are their most productive years. We would be better off just letting people take 10 years off in their twenties - but most people would just party party party (what they do anyway)
  - znpy 7mo ago
    Given two parents, there are four grandparents. Sharing the load across six people is much better than sharing between two.
    - bad_haircut72 7mo ago
      Those four grandparents could end up with anywhere from 1-8+ grandkids though, depending on how many children they had, and how many grandchildren come along
    - ml-anon 7mo ago
      have you heard of people not surviving into old age, or not being present or not being able to take care of kids? What the fuck is wrong with people in this comment section?
      - znpy 7mo ago
        > have you heard of people not surviving into old age not really, overall the life expectancy is growing well over 80 years old. unless you live, like, in the woods and feed off berries and hunting or something like that. and yeah sure there might be somebody that loses their parents at 15, absolutely. i'm sorry for them, but they are not statistically representative in any way.
        ml-anon 7mo ago
        ladies and gentlemen, the fucking state of hn.
        znpy 7mo ago
        grounded in reality you mean?
- mfitton 7mo ago
  And then you end up raising your grandkids instead of the kids you gave birth to. It's not something that comes without cost. And what if you don't particularly trust your parents to raise kids? I suppose you would have no idea whether you did or not, because they would not have parented you...
znpy 7mo ago
It really seems you have no idea what you’re talking about. I have a couple of friends married for about 4-5 years, with a 4-years old son and a one year old daughter. They both have graduate degrees and stable jobs. They are near 40 years old. Man, they are two zombies. They are drained. They push forward for the immense love of their kids but it’s incredibly evident they’re drained. And the thing is… having kids at almost 40 should really be discouraged. They simply don’t have the same energy they had when they were 20, of course. Heck, i’m 33 and it’s evident to me I don’t have the same energy as when I was 23. This modern idea that one should postpone having kids is incredibly stupid, I hope at some point society will self-correct somehow.
- lurking_swe 7mo ago
  ya’ll are talking about 2 separate extremes. Of course each extreme has its own set of cons. Hardly surprising. At the end of the day it’s a moot point. You can’t pick when you find love and a suitable partner. :)
  - znpy 7mo ago
    > You can’t pick when you find love and a suitable partner. :) that's a moot point as well. people find suitable partners all the time, but they don't even take having kids in consideration before a certain age

If everyone had kids at 18-20, then the grandparents could take care of the grandkids while in their 40s while the parents build their careers from 20-40, then start taking care of the grandkids as the cycle repeats

bad_haircut72 7mo ago
Peoples 40s and 50s are their most productive years. We would be better off just letting people take 10 years off in their twenties - but most people would just party party party (what they do anyway)
- znpy 7mo ago
  Given two parents, there are four grandparents. Sharing the load across six people is much better than sharing between two.
  - bad_haircut72 7mo ago
    Those four grandparents could end up with anywhere from 1-8+ grandkids though, depending on how many children they had, and how many grandchildren come along
  - ml-anon 7mo ago
    have you heard of people not surviving into old age, or not being present or not being able to take care of kids? What the fuck is wrong with people in this comment section?
    - znpy 7mo ago
      > have you heard of people not surviving into old age not really, overall the life expectancy is growing well over 80 years old. unless you live, like, in the woods and feed off berries and hunting or something like that. and yeah sure there might be somebody that loses their parents at 15, absolutely. i'm sorry for them, but they are not statistically representative in any way.
      - ml-anon 7mo ago
        ladies and gentlemen, the fucking state of hn.
        znpy 7mo ago
        grounded in reality you mean?
mfitton 7mo ago
And then you end up raising your grandkids instead of the kids you gave birth to. It's not something that comes without cost. And what if you don't particularly trust your parents to raise kids? I suppose you would have no idea whether you did or not, because they would not have parented you...

znpy 7mo ago

It really seems you have no idea what you’re talking about. I have a couple of friends married for about 4-5 years, with a 4-years old son and a one year old daughter. They both have graduate degrees and stable jobs. They are near 40 years old. Man, they are two zombies. They are drained. They push forward for the immense love of their kids but it’s incredibly evident they’re drained. And the thing is… having kids at almost 40 should really be discouraged. They simply don’t have the same energy they had when they were 20, of course. Heck, i’m 33 and it’s evident to me I don’t have the same energy as when I was 23. This modern idea that one should postpone having kids is incredibly stupid, I hope at some point society will self-correct somehow.

lurking_swe 7mo ago
ya’ll are talking about 2 separate extremes. Of course each extreme has its own set of cons. Hardly surprising. At the end of the day it’s a moot point. You can’t pick when you find love and a suitable partner. :)
- znpy 7mo ago
  > You can’t pick when you find love and a suitable partner. :) that's a moot point as well. people find suitable partners all the time, but they don't even take having kids in consideration before a certain age