the amount of extra effort required to constantly be observing the baby [...] makes [...] caring for a baby just more difficult you learn a lot more about your

the amount of extra effort required to constantly be observing the baby [...] makes [...] caring for a baby just more difficult you learn a lot more about your baby than just elimination cues by observing it. i'd argue that that effort is not difficult at all and has a lot of other benefits. see attachment parenting. you are right about "you must do it this way or else" producing unnecessary stress though.