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Losing your temper when a serious boundary has been crossed is natural and expected. It had a positive outcome in that it stopped your bad behaviour immediately

Losing your temper when a serious boundary has been crossed is natural and expected. It had a positive outcome in that it stopped your bad behaviour immediately. > He ended up grabbing me by the throat, while no-one around did a thing to stop him. The bystander effect is real, but you should also take this opportunity for self-reflection, because in this case, you were the person behaving badly who instigated the situation. > But I doubt I’ll learn anything from it Yes, unfortunately it seems unlikely you will.

awesomeMilou 7mo ago
No verbal comment, be it a comment or an actual insult or otherwise, justifies violence and crossing the body threshold. In what world do you live?
- closewith 7mo ago
  In the real world, many comments can and will provoke violence. In many cases, it's justifiable. > In what world do you live? In what bubble do you live? Go out into the world and behave like the GP. Your apparent mental model of society will collapse quickly.
  - beaker52 7mo ago
    You’ve suggested they live in a bubble, yet your comments suggest that you expect no-one to “invade” your blissful little privacy bubble, and believe it’s okay to strike out and be physically violent to others if they do. > Go out into the world and behave like the GP. Your apparent mental model of society will collapse quickly. The problem you’ve got is that I will win. If you permit escalating mouth words to physical violence, I’ll have stabbed you in the face for your mouth words before you’ve gotten very far. Subduing your propensity for physical escalation is in your favour.
    - closewith 7mo ago
      > If you permit escalating mouth words to physical violence, I’ll have stabbed you in the face for your mouth words before you’ve gotten very far. Of course you would. What an infantile response divorced from reality.
  - awesomeMilou 7mo ago
    I just want to reply, a few days after the fact: What you describe would be illegal in my country. Save for me insulting your basic human dignity, i.e. if I were to call you subhuman or something like that (which I'm not, this is an example), what you're describing would be assault and you'd be arrested.
beaker52 7mo ago
Serious boundary? He put tits in front of my eyes. Am I supposed to remember to keep my eyes pinned to the floor when out in public? What a terrible way you must live. I’m afraid to say, that if you want a boundary, go home. Otherwise, accept that you’re in public, and people can and will speak to you. Also, you’ve just justified being violent in response to someone making sounds with their mouth. I bet you’re a calm person to be around, when everyone does what you want.

awesomeMilou 7mo ago

No verbal comment, be it a comment or an actual insult or otherwise, justifies violence and crossing the body threshold. In what world do you live?

closewith 7mo ago
In the real world, many comments can and will provoke violence. In many cases, it's justifiable. > In what world do you live? In what bubble do you live? Go out into the world and behave like the GP. Your apparent mental model of society will collapse quickly.
- beaker52 7mo ago
  You’ve suggested they live in a bubble, yet your comments suggest that you expect no-one to “invade” your blissful little privacy bubble, and believe it’s okay to strike out and be physically violent to others if they do. > Go out into the world and behave like the GP. Your apparent mental model of society will collapse quickly. The problem you’ve got is that I will win. If you permit escalating mouth words to physical violence, I’ll have stabbed you in the face for your mouth words before you’ve gotten very far. Subduing your propensity for physical escalation is in your favour.
  - closewith 7mo ago
    > If you permit escalating mouth words to physical violence, I’ll have stabbed you in the face for your mouth words before you’ve gotten very far. Of course you would. What an infantile response divorced from reality.
- awesomeMilou 7mo ago
  I just want to reply, a few days after the fact: What you describe would be illegal in my country. Save for me insulting your basic human dignity, i.e. if I were to call you subhuman or something like that (which I'm not, this is an example), what you're describing would be assault and you'd be arrested.

beaker52 7mo ago

Serious boundary? He put tits in front of my eyes. Am I supposed to remember to keep my eyes pinned to the floor when out in public? What a terrible way you must live. I’m afraid to say, that if you want a boundary, go home. Otherwise, accept that you’re in public, and people can and will speak to you. Also, you’ve just justified being violent in response to someone making sounds with their mouth. I bet you’re a calm person to be around, when everyone does what you want.