> Can someone explain why we ever stopped doing that? big picture... people avoid telling others what their gaps are, where they're underperforming. this empa

> Can someone explain why we ever stopped doing that? big picture... people avoid telling others what their gaps are, where they're underperforming. this empathy ruins people and, while it avoids difficult conversations, doesn't do the kid any favors. it is actually very unkind to the individual while the messenger protects their own comfort. this pattern repeats it self in adulthood too.