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I remember wandering into Cartier's in NYC dressed in my shaggy jeans and t-shirt. They didn't throw me out, but a security guard followed me around, definitely

I remember wandering into Cartier's in NYC dressed in my shaggy jeans and t-shirt. They didn't throw me out, but a security guard followed me around, definitely edging into my personal space to make me uncomfortable. I laughed, said I get it, looked a bit more, and left. I remember the days when you were expected to wear a suit on a jet, even the kids. These days, even the first class travelers wear track shorts. I kinda wish the airlines would have a dress code.

anonymars 9mo ago
> I kinda wish the airlines would have a dress code I'd take a code of conduct before the dress code. Though, appropriately enough, I suppose the latter signals the former
- WalterBright 9mo ago
  Decent people don't need a code of conduct. There's been pressure on the D Language Foundation to have a CoC. I've consistently refused one. The only thing I demand is "professional conduct". Sometimes people ask me what professional conduct is. I reply with: 1. ask your mother 2. failing that, I recommend Emily Post's book on Business Etiquette. And an amazing thing happened. Everyone in the D forums behaves professionally. Every once in a while someone new will test this, their posts get deleted, and then they leave or behave professionally.
  - anonymars 9mo ago
    I meant for flights (edited accordingly). In both cases I think "don't be a dick" probably would go most of the way
    - WalterBright 9mo ago
      You'll get treated better by the staff if you dress better.
      - anonymars 9mo ago
        I'm less concerned with the behavior of the staff than the behavior of the other passengers
        WalterBright 9mo ago
        The staff can be more inclined to help you if you've got a problem.
saghm 9mo ago
> I kinda wish the airlines would have a dress code What? Why? Are you really that bothered by other people wearing stuff that you wouldn't personally want to wear? I can't even imagine going through life with strong feelings about how other people should dress; it legitimately sounds exhausting.
- WalterBright 9mo ago
  Would you go to a wedding dressed like a slob? Would you go to an elegant restaurant in sweats? If you go to pick up your date, and she opens the door wearing track shorts and a worn t-shirt, how would you feel? When I'd pick up my date, and she had obviously spent a lot of time on her appearance, it'd make me feel like a million bucks.
  - WalterBright 9mo ago
    P.S. If you're a real estate agent, and you drive to a customer in a shoddy car, you aren't going to make a sale.
  - saghm 9mo ago
    When I got married, my spouse and I told people to wear whatever they wanted because we didn't really care. I also never cared at all about what we were wearing on our dates because what I enjoy about spending time with people is not seeing them present themselves in a way that I tell them to. I would go to a restaurant in sweats if I were allowed to. I fundamentally do not understand what reason everyone else should have to dress to please you compared to themselves. Seeing everyone else as props to fit your preferred aesthetic rather than people who's desires about their own appearances are more important than what you want them to look like just seems selfish to me.
    - WalterBright 9mo ago
      It's a free country and you can dress as you please. But people will judge you by how you dress, and you will miss opportunities as a result, and you'll never know that this is happening. As I mentioned earlier, people do react to me differently depending on how I dress. And I've known many people who align with your views on this, and they've all wondered why opportunity passed them by (or they realized they needed to change). Can I ask: suppose you were charged with a crime. Your lawyer showed up in track shorts. Would you get another lawyer? I sure would.

anonymars 9mo ago

> I kinda wish the airlines would have a dress code I'd take a code of conduct before the dress code. Though, appropriately enough, I suppose the latter signals the former

WalterBright 9mo ago
Decent people don't need a code of conduct. There's been pressure on the D Language Foundation to have a CoC. I've consistently refused one. The only thing I demand is "professional conduct". Sometimes people ask me what professional conduct is. I reply with: 1. ask your mother 2. failing that, I recommend Emily Post's book on Business Etiquette. And an amazing thing happened. Everyone in the D forums behaves professionally. Every once in a while someone new will test this, their posts get deleted, and then they leave or behave professionally.
- anonymars 9mo ago
  I meant for flights (edited accordingly). In both cases I think "don't be a dick" probably would go most of the way
  - WalterBright 9mo ago
    You'll get treated better by the staff if you dress better.
    - anonymars 9mo ago
      I'm less concerned with the behavior of the staff than the behavior of the other passengers
      - WalterBright 9mo ago
        The staff can be more inclined to help you if you've got a problem.

saghm 9mo ago

> I kinda wish the airlines would have a dress code What? Why? Are you really that bothered by other people wearing stuff that you wouldn't personally want to wear? I can't even imagine going through life with strong feelings about how other people should dress; it legitimately sounds exhausting.

WalterBright 9mo ago
Would you go to a wedding dressed like a slob? Would you go to an elegant restaurant in sweats? If you go to pick up your date, and she opens the door wearing track shorts and a worn t-shirt, how would you feel? When I'd pick up my date, and she had obviously spent a lot of time on her appearance, it'd make me feel like a million bucks.
- WalterBright 9mo ago
  P.S. If you're a real estate agent, and you drive to a customer in a shoddy car, you aren't going to make a sale.
- saghm 9mo ago
  When I got married, my spouse and I told people to wear whatever they wanted because we didn't really care. I also never cared at all about what we were wearing on our dates because what I enjoy about spending time with people is not seeing them present themselves in a way that I tell them to. I would go to a restaurant in sweats if I were allowed to. I fundamentally do not understand what reason everyone else should have to dress to please you compared to themselves. Seeing everyone else as props to fit your preferred aesthetic rather than people who's desires about their own appearances are more important than what you want them to look like just seems selfish to me.
  - WalterBright 9mo ago
    It's a free country and you can dress as you please. But people will judge you by how you dress, and you will miss opportunities as a result, and you'll never know that this is happening. As I mentioned earlier, people do react to me differently depending on how I dress. And I've known many people who align with your views on this, and they've all wondered why opportunity passed them by (or they realized they needed to change). Can I ask: suppose you were charged with a crime. Your lawyer showed up in track shorts. Would you get another lawyer? I sure would.