There is something that your argument misses, I think. We like to think that our actions follow our emotions. The reasoning goes that if I am making intentiona

There is something that your argument misses, I think. We like to think that our actions follow our emotions. The reasoning goes that if I am making intentional effort to do something that I do not necessarily feel like doing, I am just doing something artificial, and am therefore a hypocrite. However, one's emotions also follow their actions. If I have to make an effort to choose to act like I am in love, I will feel love from making the effort. I am training my emotions to follow my actions. And then, before long, I am feeling the emotion behind doing the thing that I do. What was first artificial becomes genuine. It is like teaching your children to say please, thank you, and I'm sorry. Do they actually feel these things when they say them? Not at first. But by ingraining the action, you instill the emotion. I speak from experience. I have six children.