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> People learn conflict resolution by watching others, and that goes for kids. As someone that grew up watching my parents fight constantly in front of me, I s
by mnicole 14y ago
> People learn conflict resolution by watching others, and that goes for kids.
As someone that grew up watching my parents fight constantly in front of me, I still react to confrontation the same way as your friend. Their fighting frightened me because he was physical, so when I get into [really] overheated situations, I shut down instead because that seems safer to me than risking pressing forward.
In situations where I saw friends' parents fight, it was awkward and equally unsettling.
- uhwuggawuh 14y ago> Their fighting frightened me because he was physical Arguing and abuse are two separate things. Watching my parents fight, often over incredibly stupid things using irrational tactics, taught me worlds about the values of patience, understanding, and rationality.
- mnicole 14y agoI just don't think this is universal. Even if he didn't hit her, their issues were always unresolved and their situation never got better, even after counseling.
- cico71 14y agoIt's anecdotal at best. Not only it can't be generalized, at different ages the outcome may be a lot different. Kids need a certain level of maturity to understand properly conflicts and learn conflict resolution otherwise they simply feel them as a crack in their world. There are not fast and hard rules here, every kid/situation may be quite different...