Most of these suggestions can be summarized as "don't be selfish". My own approach is to consider the relationship as something somewhat separate from yoursel

Most of these suggestions can be summarized as "don't be selfish". My own approach is to consider the relationship as something somewhat separate from yourself. You like/love the relationship, and it fulfills you in one way or another, so do what it takes to maintain it. Sometimes that means "spending" some of your own ego.