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>so the residents (and businesses) are super accommodating of families with kids. To the point where if I have to take a little one to the bathroom in a restaur

by tayo42 8mo ago

>so the residents (and businesses) are super accommodating of families with kids. To the point where if I have to take a little one to the bathroom in a restaurant, people often invite my big one (5 year old) to hang out at their table so I don't have to worry about it. My experience so far with a kid is most people will just tolerate your child. I'm surprised your running into that attitude. Other new parents I know that are in the suburbs aren't all surrounded by family's either. I think aging people aren't downsizing their houses and moving around. Careers scattered and cheap homes scattered everyone around. Maybe NYC is just different. I mean I'm 100% sure it's different. I'm grew up in a NYC suburb lol

xyzelement 8mo ago
I mean I think it depends on the suburb. If you moved your family to a place where everyone is a shut-in boomer (vs the grandfatherly types that I somehow meet in my area) then... why would you move there to have kids? To me that's like going to a badly reviewed restaurant and then complaining about the food. If you knew you were moving to a place hostile to kids, why move there?
- tayo42 8mo ago
  With the housing market competitive as it is you don't really get to much of a choice and it's not like there's yelp reviews for neighbors.
  - xyzelement 8mo ago
    I don't think that's right. There's a difference between "I hadn't tried to do that"(which would have been the case for me, if not for my wife's wisdom) and "it's hard" Like literally a starting point could be -where do your friends and coworkers with kids tend to live? Or ask a realtor which parts of town have turned over with young families. When you are checking out the house you can literally tell which houses have kids and u can ask about it. The housing market it what it is but you get a very different outcome if you search in a a family friendly town vs not to begin with. Obviously?

by tayo42 8mo ago

xyzelement 8mo ago

I mean I think it depends on the suburb. If you moved your family to a place where everyone is a shut-in boomer (vs the grandfatherly types that I somehow meet in my area) then... why would you move there to have kids? To me that's like going to a badly reviewed restaurant and then complaining about the food. If you knew you were moving to a place hostile to kids, why move there?

tayo42 8mo ago
With the housing market competitive as it is you don't really get to much of a choice and it's not like there's yelp reviews for neighbors.
- xyzelement 8mo ago
  I don't think that's right. There's a difference between "I hadn't tried to do that"(which would have been the case for me, if not for my wife's wisdom) and "it's hard" Like literally a starting point could be -where do your friends and coworkers with kids tend to live? Or ask a realtor which parts of town have turned over with young families. When you are checking out the house you can literally tell which houses have kids and u can ask about it. The housing market it what it is but you get a very different outcome if you search in a a family friendly town vs not to begin with. Obviously?