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Woman Posts Boyfriend Request on GitHub, Requires Access to His Server
- jiggy2011 14y agoWow, that's quite a list of demands. Is this a more common thing with Japanese women, do they go into dating with a very specific set of criteria rather than "winging it" as western women would? "Someone who plays at most only 1 hour of videogames a day, or at most only 30 minutes of TV." Most good TV shows are at least an hour long per episode, I assume you have to split them over 2 days.
- potatolicious 14y ago> "do they go into dating with a very specific set of criteria rather than "winging it" as western women would?" I find many western women are quite specific also, and men too. Treating potential mates as a checklist instead of unique individuals seems to be a global problem.
- s8qnze982y 14y agoI don't think it's a global problem; it's just asocial people who have little to none social/romantic experience, so they imagine their romantic life rather than living it.
- jiggy2011 14y agoThat is true, perhaps it is more an issue of how it is articulated. When I look at female profiles on dating websites, I see western women say vague things like "I want a caring guy with a good sense of humour who knows how to treat a lady". Whereas from asian women I see things more like "Between ages X and Y , minimum salary Z , must enjoy A, B and C". I'm sure some western women have similar requirements but perhaps it is just more taboo to articulate them. Some of the stuff on here seems very specific though, but I guess some of it must be somewhat tongue in cheek.
- potatolicious 14y agoAh yes, it really is a difference in articulation. I also don't see westerners expressing their "requirements" quite so bluntly, though from private conversations these lists certainly do exist, and are every bit as ridiculous.
- spindritf 14y agoIt's not a real problem, those lists go out the window before the first drink is gone. Hers is actually quite good -- friends from school, own server, Drucker... they're usually much dumber than that (the lists, that is).
- slurgfest 14y agoWhite women make up such lists of demands too, I have read several. It is sort of funny and sort of self-directed/self-indulgent. If you don't like it, then obviously you should not apply for the position ;)
- vijayr 14y agoThat TV show demand doesn't make sense (what if you want to watch a game?) Also, would it have made to betabeat if it was posted by a guy, instead of a girl?
- engtech 14y agoWhen she says 1 hour of video games or at most only 30 minutes of TV, I'm sure she means on average. So 7 hr video games a week or 3.5 hr of TV a week. I interpreted it as "someone who doesn't ignore me". Rather ironic point given that she works at a game company.
- jagatsastry 14y agoDirect link https://github.com/norinori2222/boyfriend_require/blob/master/README-en.md https://github.com/norinori2222/boyfriend_require/blob/maste...
- davewasthere 14y agoFirst time I saw this, I actually thought this was a repost of the gay guy on github who had a list of requirements for a boyfriend so I didn't read it. Normally women keep this sort of list as a secret hidden agenda which we're meant to guess. Nice to see some transparency. ;-)
- danielgrieve 14y agoAnother positive for open source I'd say!
- andygcook 14y agoReminds me of the Application to be my Boyfriend from Best of Craigslist (2009) http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/vic/1396835868.html http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/vic/1396835868.html
- LinaLauneBaer 14y agoCurious: Did you find a boyfriend in the meantime?
- btilly 14y agoI suspect that Andy found it through the aforementioned "Best of Craigslist" and was not the woman looking for a boyfriend.
- w1ntermute 14y agoPrevious discussion on HN: http://hackerne.ws/item?id=4629969 http://hackerne.ws/item?id=4629969
- bluetidepro 14y ago> "Someone who can tolerate social gaming companies like Zynga..." Welp, most of us on HN are out of the running! ;) But in all seriousness, am I the only one that thinks this is just ridiculous? It would have been funny and one thing had it been a joke, but this just seems crazy to me. Maybe it's because I'm only 23 and I'm not that "desperate". Or maybe it's cause I'm very social and rarely have troubles finding dates or new people to meet, but I just can't imagine ever trying to get an actual date or make a real connection with someone from an absurd list of demands/requirements like this. Plus, using github in this way just annoys me a bit. There are plenty of free dating sites out there (Okcupid, for example) where you could find mates that meet your "needs" or are compatible with you. Using github like this (again, if it was a joke, that would be one thing) just screams "I'm desperate" or "I want attention for using github to find a date." Github has drink-ups and meet-ups if you want to meet other people on there or similar to you, as well!
- engtech 14y agoWe all have a list of demands/requirements (eg: non-smoker, likes dogs, will put up with my !@#$). Not all people are as blunt about it as this women. What's always funny about these lists is that they are only based on your previous experience and are not necessarily real predictors of future success. If anything a good catch is someone who you want to be with despite the fact they don't score well on your list of requirements. I've always thought OK Cupid had one of the more interesting matching algorithms because they ask the users questions to get an idea of them, and let people rank how important a match on specific questions are to them. eg: religion (or lack of) are very important to some people, and not as much to others.
- bluetidepro 14y ago> "If anything a good catch is someone who you want to be with despite the fact they don't score well on your list of requirements." I couldn't agree more. In any form, finding someone via a list of demands/requirements is such a close minded approach to finding someone to be happy with.
- brazzy 14y ago
- JimmaDaRustla 14y agoPretentious. Controlling. Possibly obsessive compulsive.
- shin_lao 14y agoAnal retentive came to my mind.
- talmir 14y agoI cant explain why, but this strikes me as quite sad. Not her, really. But the guys that go after her. From the list and her demands I cant imagine a relationship with her would be a happy one. But that is just my opinion tho. (Out of curiosity I counted quickly the requirements I would fulfill : 25, and all her bonus requirements except the access to the server bit. That just screams "paranoid" to me. Why would that be a requirement for a relationship?
- doesnt_know 14y agoMost of us have demands for a partner, even if you aren't consciously aware of them. Perhaps not this specific, but who knows? Try writing down the qualities of what your "perfect" mate would be and see what you end up with. Of course, it's a completely different thing to do that as an exercise for yourself compared to actually publishing it on a social developer site, but to each their own I guess.
- talmir 14y agoWhen I sit down and write out a list of qualities I want in my perfect mate I find that I rarely deal in absolutes. And the absolutes are more of the negative kind like I wouldnt want my new spouse to be doing drugs or anything like that. I think the appropriate way is to apply fuzzy logic to the good attributes and average it out. The thought that just because the mate watches an hour of tv a day instead of the required half hour she would never be interested is horrible to me. This kind of thinking would reduce the act of dating down to just meeting up for five minutes, filling out questionaires and comparing them.
- doesnt_know 14y ago>This kind of thinking would reduce the act of dating down to just meeting up for five minutes, filling out questionaires and comparing them. Isn't that the entire idea behind OkCupid? That seems quite successful.
- Nursie 14y agoKids, vegetables, no tv and 'social gaming' ? Yeesh. No sudo for you on Ammonite I'm afraid...
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- w1ntermute 14y agoIf you look at the original post on GitHub, it's not a VPS, it's a home server. And of course she'll want to meet in person.
- wisty 14y ago> Someone who will let me help them maintain their own server (Required) Twitch.
- TazeTSchnitzel 14y agoNobody touches my shell scripts!
- slig 14y agoI'm pretty sure this is sarcasm. Late 30s, undisclosed weight ("? I'd like to lose some") and a wall of demands.
- didip 14y agoFor such an incredibly long list of demands... her GitHub profile only listed 4 projects. Very disappointing :p
- jiggy2011 14y ago"I don't discriminate based on looks." It's always hilarious when women say this, are you saying that somebody with severe disfigurations and scars or someone is morbidly obese would not affect the decision at all?
- Evbn 14y agoObesity isn't a look, it is a lifestyle-impacting condition.
- xentronium 14y agoAccount norinori2222 on github has no public projects (except for test repos), no commits to any public projects, what is this, a joke?!