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I love how some people think they're entitled to an outstanding partner simply by virtue of being them. This woman makes no attempt whatsoever at demonstrating

I love how some people think they're entitled to an outstanding partner simply by virtue of being them. This woman makes no attempt whatsoever at demonstrating her value yet demands the world of potential suitors. I don't care for this attitude.

bluedanieru 14y ago
Well a bit of mild narcissism isn't that bad, usually. Also, she's not demanding a great deal from a partner, it's just that the list is needlessly exclusive, if that makes sense. I do find it sad that someone can make it to their late thirties and still be this clueless, though.
- saraid216 14y ago
  On one hand, some of the requirements are needlessly exclusive. On the other, some of them are disturbingly low-bar, and is very suggestive that she's been with people who don't meet them. (Only suggestive; I can think of alternate explanations for why they're on there.)
  - Turing_Machine 14y ago
    ? I only see four requirements: Someone who writes beautiful code--it makes me cry tears of joy. (Required) Someone who maintains their own server (Required, Linux preferred) Someone who will let me help them maintain their own server (Required) Someone with public repos on Github (Required) The others are all "preferences", yes?
    - Turing_Machine 14y ago
      I missed a few: No smokers. (Required) No one whose personality changes when they drink. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become violent. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become uncontrollably angry. (Required) Still a pretty low bar, IMO.
      - bluedanieru 14y ago
        Uh, you also missed: > If you've read the above preferences and feel you match at least 28/30 of them (30/34 for software engineers), please contact me.
SwellJoe 14y ago
I suspect she'll get a few responses, by virtue of the fact that she is a living, breathing, woman on the Internet. The people responding might even meet her qualifications (most of them, by some definition). But, I suspect she'll find that the people she meets this way aren't right for her, despite matching her checklist. Likewise, the people who find her this way are unlikely to be pleased with the result. There's a whole spectrum of compatibility that isn't easily described in lists...yes, you have to have some basic shared values to build a relationship, and maybe it's useful to pre-qualify based on that. But, the "chemistry" is equally important. And, it's just not gonna happen on github. Probably. That said, I don't think her expectations are all that unreasonable. She's ruled out age and looks as important factors, which opens up a huge variety of people. There's some amazing ugly people out there. Maybe one of them is in the same boat she's in, and will get to know her before deciding if she's worth having a relationship with.

bluedanieru 14y ago

Well a bit of mild narcissism isn't that bad, usually. Also, she's not demanding a great deal from a partner, it's just that the list is needlessly exclusive, if that makes sense. I do find it sad that someone can make it to their late thirties and still be this clueless, though.

saraid216 14y ago
On one hand, some of the requirements are needlessly exclusive. On the other, some of them are disturbingly low-bar, and is very suggestive that she's been with people who don't meet them. (Only suggestive; I can think of alternate explanations for why they're on there.)
- Turing_Machine 14y ago
  ? I only see four requirements: Someone who writes beautiful code--it makes me cry tears of joy. (Required) Someone who maintains their own server (Required, Linux preferred) Someone who will let me help them maintain their own server (Required) Someone with public repos on Github (Required) The others are all "preferences", yes?
  - Turing_Machine 14y ago
    I missed a few: No smokers. (Required) No one whose personality changes when they drink. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become violent. (Required) Someone who does not, under any circumstances, become uncontrollably angry. (Required) Still a pretty low bar, IMO.
    - bluedanieru 14y ago
      Uh, you also missed: > If you've read the above preferences and feel you match at least 28/30 of them (30/34 for software engineers), please contact me.

SwellJoe 14y ago

I suspect she'll get a few responses, by virtue of the fact that she is a living, breathing, woman on the Internet. The people responding might even meet her qualifications (most of them, by some definition). But, I suspect she'll find that the people she meets this way aren't right for her, despite matching her checklist. Likewise, the people who find her this way are unlikely to be pleased with the result. There's a whole spectrum of compatibility that isn't easily described in lists...yes, you have to have some basic shared values to build a relationship, and maybe it's useful to pre-qualify based on that. But, the "chemistry" is equally important. And, it's just not gonna happen on github. Probably. That said, I don't think her expectations are all that unreasonable. She's ruled out age and looks as important factors, which opens up a huge variety of people. There's some amazing ugly people out there. Maybe one of them is in the same boat she's in, and will get to know her before deciding if she's worth having a relationship with.