The problem with that attitude is thus: People think "women aren't interested in this", which leads them to think "well, since women aren't interested, we don'

The problem with that attitude is thus: People think "women aren't interested in this", which leads them to think "well, since women aren't interested, we don't have to try to be inclusive at all", which leads to them behaving in ways that mean women don't feel welcome and hence aren't interested in participating. I'm not saying you're guilty of that process - but the "women aren't interested" trope can be rather pernicious.