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> Everyone is struggling with this, not just you. Eh, I don't think EVERYONE is struggling with this. I am an introvert, and have no desire to go out and do mo

> Everyone is struggling with this, not just you. Eh, I don't think EVERYONE is struggling with this. I am an introvert, and have no desire to go out and do more things with friends. I get enough socialization with my wife and kids, and don't really have the desire to do more things.

drdeca 9mo ago
I’m also an introvert, I think, but I do feel I would be better off with more socialization than I’m getting. Though, I’m also single, so, maybe I wouldn’t feel such a need if I were married? Idk.
socalgal2 9mo ago
> socialization with my wife and kids So you aren't one of the people that are lonely, because you have wife and kids
wvh 9mo ago
I used to think that way. Then, divorce, custody battle and the dark abyss. No home, nobody to talk to; just silence, loneliness, general apathy of the world around you. It's the trap of the middle-aged man: to focus on work, invest in family, and hope these things will be a constant because you are doing the right thing. We don't have enough emotional bonds, don't know how to create them, and if the wife leaves and takes the kids, there's nothing left.
- CuriouslyC 9mo ago
  Sorry to hear that. I'd use this as an opportunity to do something exciting with your life (if finances permit). Go live in Asia and do the nomad thing, if you're lonely there are a ton of Filipinas who want nothing more than to be a good wife and provide for their family. Try to start a business, take up some kind of art and make an honest effort to get GOOD at it, etc.
- astura 9mo ago
  Not only that, but you also want to teach the kids how to socialize outside of the family.
reinhardt 9mo ago
Same lack of desire to go out and I don't even have wife and kids, or even friends for that matter; just one friend I see once a week. Whatever the appeal/reward of socialization is for most people, I don't get it.

drdeca 9mo ago

I’m also an introvert, I think, but I do feel I would be better off with more socialization than I’m getting. Though, I’m also single, so, maybe I wouldn’t feel such a need if I were married? Idk.

socalgal2 9mo ago

> socialization with my wife and kids So you aren't one of the people that are lonely, because you have wife and kids

wvh 9mo ago

I used to think that way. Then, divorce, custody battle and the dark abyss. No home, nobody to talk to; just silence, loneliness, general apathy of the world around you. It's the trap of the middle-aged man: to focus on work, invest in family, and hope these things will be a constant because you are doing the right thing. We don't have enough emotional bonds, don't know how to create them, and if the wife leaves and takes the kids, there's nothing left.

CuriouslyC 9mo ago
Sorry to hear that. I'd use this as an opportunity to do something exciting with your life (if finances permit). Go live in Asia and do the nomad thing, if you're lonely there are a ton of Filipinas who want nothing more than to be a good wife and provide for their family. Try to start a business, take up some kind of art and make an honest effort to get GOOD at it, etc.
astura 9mo ago
Not only that, but you also want to teach the kids how to socialize outside of the family.

reinhardt 9mo ago

Same lack of desire to go out and I don't even have wife and kids, or even friends for that matter; just one friend I see once a week. Whatever the appeal/reward of socialization is for most people, I don't get it.