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A somewhat cynical response given the frequency of this topic/question being posted here and on other social media platforms. Add a weak "/s but not really" if

A somewhat cynical response given the frequency of this topic/question being posted here and on other social media platforms. Add a weak "/s but not really" if you want: People sitting at home living on apps and watching TV who decide to go to a new group social event to change things up will struggle to make a connection with someone else who was at home on an app and watching TV deciding to get out and meet someone else. The people who have friends.. already have friends. Those who don't are numerous social cycle iterations in on that. And how long before those people just end up talking about TV shows anyway?

StevePerkins 9mo ago
Nonsense. It's fine to be boring, and to have boring friends. This expectation that you need to be travel influencer or a deep philosopher in order to have anything to talk about is an artifact of social media. I'm old enough to remember what socialization was like pre-Internet. And by curated social media standards, it was really boring. It was also great.
- browningstreet 9mo ago
  My post wasn't about socializing, it was in the context of the "loneliness epidemic" as a social topic construct.
  - habinero 9mo ago
    I mean, if you've already convinced yourself that you'll have a bad time and no one will like you...that's what they call a self-fulfilling prophesy. It's fine to feel intimidated or shy, but then find something else that does feel manageable. It's something you can get better with by practicing. And I say that as an introvert who went semi-feral after Covid lol.
technothrasher 9mo ago
> who decide to go to a new group social event to change things up will struggle to make a connection with someone else I can't imagine going to a general "group social event" like a party and making a connection. I'd end up just sitting there being bored until I left. I don't have the personality to just strike up a conversation about nothing with some one I don't know. But I do somewhat often go to events that revolve around my hobbies. There, I already have a connection with the strangers, through the hobby, and I have something to talk about or listen to. I've met plenty of new friends that way.

StevePerkins 9mo ago

Nonsense. It's fine to be boring, and to have boring friends. This expectation that you need to be travel influencer or a deep philosopher in order to have anything to talk about is an artifact of social media. I'm old enough to remember what socialization was like pre-Internet. And by curated social media standards, it was really boring. It was also great.

browningstreet 9mo ago
My post wasn't about socializing, it was in the context of the "loneliness epidemic" as a social topic construct.
- habinero 9mo ago
  I mean, if you've already convinced yourself that you'll have a bad time and no one will like you...that's what they call a self-fulfilling prophesy. It's fine to feel intimidated or shy, but then find something else that does feel manageable. It's something you can get better with by practicing. And I say that as an introvert who went semi-feral after Covid lol.

technothrasher 9mo ago

> who decide to go to a new group social event to change things up will struggle to make a connection with someone else I can't imagine going to a general "group social event" like a party and making a connection. I'd end up just sitting there being bored until I left. I don't have the personality to just strike up a conversation about nothing with some one I don't know. But I do somewhat often go to events that revolve around my hobbies. There, I already have a connection with the strangers, through the hobby, and I have something to talk about or listen to. I've met plenty of new friends that way.