If you're saying that the entire meaning of this post is contained in the gender of a transitory person, conjured merely to be a demonstrative object of his ess

If you're saying that the entire meaning of this post is contained in the gender of a transitory person, conjured merely to be a demonstrative object of his essay, then what you are saying is dumb. He's not trying to avoid being sexist. What's sexist is to assume that there is some ulterior reason why the object of his essay would be a woman. This despite your professed appreciation for counter-sexist efforts.