In theory, one should start by looking for physical causes - medication side-effects, disorders of the endocrine system, etc. Then quietly ask whether or not s

In theory, one should start by looking for physical causes - medication side-effects, disorders of the endocrine system, etc. Then quietly ask whether or not she's n=1, in her known blood relatives, for such behavior. Also, while actually talking with your kids about their mother's issues is currently a no-go zone - kids are quite adept at reading emotions. One can both acknowledge that you're seeing the same Big Problem that they do, and that divorce is also generally horrible - without saying a word.