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I did reread and I wish I had been more polite. Sorry about that. :( I really do understand. These are all really great things, I'm bipolar and already use all

I did reread and I wish I had been more polite. Sorry about that. :( I really do understand. These are all really great things, I'm bipolar and already use all of them. I have to. But they don't apply here. I'm discussing a problem that willpower cannot fix. Here's an analogy: - Think of willpower as fuel you put into a train. - You control how far the train goes by changing the throttle or amount of fuel. - You have a bunch of freight cars behind you and you're ready to get out of the yard. - Your engine doesn't have any wheels. Someone removed them last night. (This is an analogy, you can't get a different engine.) - How much fuel do you need to get to your destination? Bonus Round: - Your boss starts asking why you haven't moved yet and won't believe you if you say the wheels were removed. Stop being lazy and get to work. You are not allowed to disagree with this analogy. :) This is exactly what my life is like.

machomaster 9mo ago
I wasn't suggesting using willpower to power through the problems. I was suggesting setting up a system, that would fit you and would enable you to live a better and more efficient life. Willpower is useful in setting up the system, to learn it. Not to operate it. Please watch this fundamental video: https://youtu.be/bcKthx5LTbI https://youtu.be/bcKthx5LTbI On a surface it is about dieting, but the lessons can be applied to the rest of the life. Cheers! :-)
- kayodelycaon 9mo ago
  Let me try again. I shouldn't have mentioned willpower. Let me restate the problem. I try to do something and I have the physical sensation of hitting a wall that shouldn't be there. Thoughts never stop at that part of the brain. I'm talking about a fundamentally different mechanism than thinking something is too hard. It's a hardware interruption that I have no control over. I've spent my entire life working around this and it's difficult. Especially when everyone thinks I'm just being lazy or I just need to do this one thing. I'm still trying to figure out how to explain it better.
  - machomaster 9mo ago
    Let't imagine that you have a task, that you started doing, but then hit the hardware wall. How physically/emotionally/intellectually tired are you at that point? What will happen if you just rest? Sleep, eat, exercise/go on a walk, lay down. No phone, no social media, no doom scrolling, no tv, no netflix, no gaming. Just 100% effort of resting and recovering, without any distractions. Would you not get bored at some point and will decide that it's better to complete the task rather than continue this boredom while fully rested
    - smeej 9mo ago
      > Just 100% effort of resting and recovering, without any distractions. You say that like the distractions are exclusively outside. I'm not the person you're replying to, but if I close all my blackout curtains, turn off all the lights, and turn off all but the white noise, but I'm not sleepy, my mind will go in a thousand directions at once. How do I or anyone else explain that to you? The challenge is in the brain. It's not an outside force. There is no boredom.
      - machomaster 9mo ago
        You are saying it as if that't uncommon (for non-adhd people) or a bad thing. Yeah, and it is fine that the mind goes somewhere. This is called meditation and it is good for you. You get valuable insights, figure out important issues, get energy and motivation.
        smeej 9mo ago
        No no. Not "somewhere." A thousand places. At once. Not in sequence. Not from one to another. At the exact same time. And then they each fractal off in their own directions. Take away the external reminders and my reality fragments into thousands of tiny pieces, all of which are just as real to me as the rest, just as pressing, just as important, or just as unimportant, because they all get lost in each other. We are not describing the same thing. It's confusing that this is somehow not obvious from your side, because it's SCREAMING obvious from this side.
- fastasucan 9mo ago
  How can diet replace the wheels? Think bipolar disorder is curable through diet change? Think harder.
  - machomaster 9mo ago
    We were talking about healthy people with adhd, not about bipolar people (who need serious medical help) or people with 60iq. No amount of running technique is going to help a legless person.

machomaster 9mo ago

I wasn't suggesting using willpower to power through the problems. I was suggesting setting up a system, that would fit you and would enable you to live a better and more efficient life. Willpower is useful in setting up the system, to learn it. Not to operate it. Please watch this fundamental video: https://youtu.be/bcKthx5LTbI https://youtu.be/bcKthx5LTbI On a surface it is about dieting, but the lessons can be applied to the rest of the life. Cheers! :-)

kayodelycaon 9mo ago
Let me try again. I shouldn't have mentioned willpower. Let me restate the problem. I try to do something and I have the physical sensation of hitting a wall that shouldn't be there. Thoughts never stop at that part of the brain. I'm talking about a fundamentally different mechanism than thinking something is too hard. It's a hardware interruption that I have no control over. I've spent my entire life working around this and it's difficult. Especially when everyone thinks I'm just being lazy or I just need to do this one thing. I'm still trying to figure out how to explain it better.
- machomaster 9mo ago
  Let't imagine that you have a task, that you started doing, but then hit the hardware wall. How physically/emotionally/intellectually tired are you at that point? What will happen if you just rest? Sleep, eat, exercise/go on a walk, lay down. No phone, no social media, no doom scrolling, no tv, no netflix, no gaming. Just 100% effort of resting and recovering, without any distractions. Would you not get bored at some point and will decide that it's better to complete the task rather than continue this boredom while fully rested
  - smeej 9mo ago
    > Just 100% effort of resting and recovering, without any distractions. You say that like the distractions are exclusively outside. I'm not the person you're replying to, but if I close all my blackout curtains, turn off all the lights, and turn off all but the white noise, but I'm not sleepy, my mind will go in a thousand directions at once. How do I or anyone else explain that to you? The challenge is in the brain. It's not an outside force. There is no boredom.
    - machomaster 9mo ago
      You are saying it as if that't uncommon (for non-adhd people) or a bad thing. Yeah, and it is fine that the mind goes somewhere. This is called meditation and it is good for you. You get valuable insights, figure out important issues, get energy and motivation.
      - smeej 9mo ago
        No no. Not "somewhere." A thousand places. At once. Not in sequence. Not from one to another. At the exact same time. And then they each fractal off in their own directions. Take away the external reminders and my reality fragments into thousands of tiny pieces, all of which are just as real to me as the rest, just as pressing, just as important, or just as unimportant, because they all get lost in each other. We are not describing the same thing. It's confusing that this is somehow not obvious from your side, because it's SCREAMING obvious from this side.
fastasucan 9mo ago
How can diet replace the wheels? Think bipolar disorder is curable through diet change? Think harder.
- machomaster 9mo ago
  We were talking about healthy people with adhd, not about bipolar people (who need serious medical help) or people with 60iq. No amount of running technique is going to help a legless person.