This works on big things. Not so much on little, cumulative ones. Why did A make a tasteless joke about B's outfit? Because he was nervous and his dubious se

This works on big things. Not so much on little, cumulative ones. Why did A make a tasteless joke about B's outfit? Because he was nervous and his dubious sense of humor got ahead of his judgment. But he didn't mean anything by it and said he's sorry B feels that way. Well everyone says stupid things sometimes. No actual harm done. B should lighten up, right? That doesn't work. http://therealkatie.net/blog/2012/mar/21/lighten-up/ http://therealkatie.net/blog/2012/mar/21/lighten-up/ Some things are problems only because they're part of a larger pattern. That's when we need to think outside of the individual domain.