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What if you have a community but it's boring and uninspiring? It's always the same shit, STEM nerds, who can only talk shop, tech, video games, sports and bitco

What if you have a community but it's boring and uninspiring? It's always the same shit, STEM nerds, who can only talk shop, tech, video games, sports and bitcoin/crypto/libertarianism/ancap stuff. I mean, I've moved like 3 times in the span of 7 years and every time I end up in the same kind of community. Also, no women. :(

zaphar 10mo ago
You can have more than one community. Find some new ones. Look deliberately for a different kind of community. Take dance or art classes at your community college. Join a sport club. There are lots of options.
- KellyCriterion 10mo ago
  Dance classes are great for getting to known other people, esp. women: Most dance classes lack enough men (for whatever reason) I had a colleague who was member of a dance club, then he had to move to another district, making it super uncomfortable to continue on a regular base - up until today they are calling him every few weeks if he can attend because lack of men
amadeoeoeo 10mo ago
Get a new hobby out of your compfort zone? (Should imply some human interaction e.g. Reading Club, Team sport, Language Exchange...)
maccard 10mo ago
If everywhere you go stinks, look under your own shoe. If you move somewhere, and find the same circles why are you surprised that you’re still not happy? > also, no women Social groups aren’t just a place for unhappy people to meet a partner. I’d look inwards first.
- jwarden 10mo ago
  Ouch! I don’t think that’s fair. It sounds like his professional life or personal interests naturally being him in contact with a social circle that isn’t fulfilling socially. Doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with him. I say, look outward! Intentionally get involved with other social circles.
  - hackable_sand 10mo ago
    But like, it's weird that there are no women in those groups, or that OP hasn't run across any women.
littlecranky67 10mo ago
Well the author suggest starting your own community. If you do art classes, yoga, social dancing etc. you will probably have less crypto bros and more woman there.
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zaphar 10mo ago

You can have more than one community. Find some new ones. Look deliberately for a different kind of community. Take dance or art classes at your community college. Join a sport club. There are lots of options.

KellyCriterion 10mo ago
Dance classes are great for getting to known other people, esp. women: Most dance classes lack enough men (for whatever reason) I had a colleague who was member of a dance club, then he had to move to another district, making it super uncomfortable to continue on a regular base - up until today they are calling him every few weeks if he can attend because lack of men

amadeoeoeo 10mo ago

Get a new hobby out of your compfort zone? (Should imply some human interaction e.g. Reading Club, Team sport, Language Exchange...)

maccard 10mo ago

If everywhere you go stinks, look under your own shoe. If you move somewhere, and find the same circles why are you surprised that you’re still not happy? > also, no women Social groups aren’t just a place for unhappy people to meet a partner. I’d look inwards first.

jwarden 10mo ago
Ouch! I don’t think that’s fair. It sounds like his professional life or personal interests naturally being him in contact with a social circle that isn’t fulfilling socially. Doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with him. I say, look outward! Intentionally get involved with other social circles.
- hackable_sand 10mo ago
  But like, it's weird that there are no women in those groups, or that OP hasn't run across any women.

littlecranky67 10mo ago

Well the author suggest starting your own community. If you do art classes, yoga, social dancing etc. you will probably have less crypto bros and more woman there.

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