Thats a really great point. Though I think if you put yourself in desperation mode for a while and you observe the pain and suffering that happens to others in

Thats a really great point. Though I think if you put yourself in desperation mode for a while and you observe the pain and suffering that happens to others in life then you will most likely stop feeling sorry for yourself. But you're right - creating an environment is only 50% of the problem (maybe less). Changing one's own internal structure is the crux of the problem.