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You're replying to something I didn't say. But on the topic of test anxiety: I think intentionally causing emotional distress to children for the purposes of m

by duped 10mo ago

You're replying to something I didn't say. But on the topic of test anxiety: I think intentionally causing emotional distress to children for the purposes of making a bad evaluation of their studies is cruel. It's a kind of cycle of trauma - "I did this, so you must to." We use grades to make value judgements of the quality of our children, when what we should be measuring is the ability of our schools to educate them and not how well-educated _the kids are_. The system is backwards, basically, and the fact it causes distress as a side effect is something that _should_ be managed - not ignored. However anxiety exists and teaching children not to manage it is also bad. One of the really good things I've seen locally is that my school districts (the same that I went through as a child) focus on emotional education at the grade school level much more than when I was a kid, and I notice that the kids have much better emotional regulation than my generation.

DiggyJohnson 10mo ago
Apologies I must have misinterpreted what you were getting at. > I think intentionally causing emotional distress to children for the purposes of making a bad evaluation of their studies is cruel. Is this ever the intended purpose?
Shorel 10mo ago
This is mostly on the parents. Children should and must be allowed to fail. In fact, failure is the default outcome most of the time. I wish I had learned in childhood that doing my best was enough. Not being the best, just doing my best. But no, this is a lesson I learned from sim racing, as an adult, during the COVID-19 quarantine, as there was not much else to do. What did I learn from sim racing: — If I make a mistake, and I keep thinking about that mistake, I will just make more mistakes. Mental recovery, and not punishing myself, is a must. I must go back to mental clarity as fast as possible, to avoid making another mistake. — Sometimes, doing my best is not enough. It can even be worthless. Other people make mistakes and that will ruin your race. In a long season, this can be offset by consistently good results. “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.” — Jan Luc Picard — I should not respect this driver because he has a famous last name or so. But I must respect that he did 600 laps preparing for the race. And my respect should be that I also practice as much. Preparation is important, we can't just go to a new track and expect to win. The winner is usually the best combination of general experience and event preparation. — Nothing feels better than a victory that's hard-earned, against a talented group. Easy victories just feel cheap in comparison.

by duped 10mo ago

DiggyJohnson 10mo ago

Apologies I must have misinterpreted what you were getting at. > I think intentionally causing emotional distress to children for the purposes of making a bad evaluation of their studies is cruel. Is this ever the intended purpose?

Shorel 10mo ago

This is mostly on the parents. Children should and must be allowed to fail. In fact, failure is the default outcome most of the time. I wish I had learned in childhood that doing my best was enough. Not being the best, just doing my best. But no, this is a lesson I learned from sim racing, as an adult, during the COVID-19 quarantine, as there was not much else to do. What did I learn from sim racing: — If I make a mistake, and I keep thinking about that mistake, I will just make more mistakes. Mental recovery, and not punishing myself, is a must. I must go back to mental clarity as fast as possible, to avoid making another mistake. — Sometimes, doing my best is not enough. It can even be worthless. Other people make mistakes and that will ruin your race. In a long season, this can be offset by consistently good results. “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life.” — Jan Luc Picard — I should not respect this driver because he has a famous last name or so. But I must respect that he did 600 laps preparing for the race. And my respect should be that I also practice as much. Preparation is important, we can't just go to a new track and expect to win. The winner is usually the best combination of general experience and event preparation. — Nothing feels better than a victory that's hard-earned, against a talented group. Easy victories just feel cheap in comparison.