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I think trying to "tune" your kids in any way is asking to be disappointed. My three kids could not be more different and they all have the same mother, grew up
by SoftTalker 11mo ago
I think trying to "tune" your kids in any way is asking to be disappointed. My three kids could not be more different and they all have the same mother, grew up in the same house, etc.
If "microRNA" profiles have any influence, I would wager it's very small.
- an-allen 11mo agoBut your kids will likely not have your insights and experiences so “tuning” is another word for broadening their awareness.
- jibal 11mo agoThat is precisely the wrong sort of conclusion to draw from this clickbaity article.
- sdf4j 11mo ago> they all have the same mother, grew up in the same house, etc. I’m pretty sure the first one didn’t have siblings, and the second only had one. Also their mother is not the same person after raising the first kid, or raising two. Parenting never have reproducible conditions.
- SoftTalker 11mo agoAgree, those are some environmental differences. But any "microRNA" profile I might have contributed to the conception of each would be broadly similar. My life was pretty stable and levels of stress, diet, exercise, etc. were all about the same for all three.
- f1shy 11mo agoThere are even identical twins that have different behaviors, characters and make different decisions.
- eipipuz 11mo agoI agree with what you are saying but remember the twin scenario. Spoiler alert, the kids are nonetheless different.
- adrianN 11mo agoI have twins (a boy and a girl) and you could tell they have a completely different temperament about two weeks after birth.
- leoedin 11mo agoI’m a twin - admittedly boy/girl, so already with some fundamental differences - and we are very, very different people. Always have been. Different interests, different ways of seeing the world, different attitudes to competition, sports, social relationships etc. Now I’ve got 2 boys, and even at fairly young ages they were very different. I’d say by 6 months old the basics of their personalities were visible, and they haven’t changed vastly as they’ve grown.
- bugglebeetle 11mo agoThe twins I have known are the same. I would assume it has something to do with a desire to differentiate themselves from one another, but they always seemed far more dissimilar in personality and affect than my siblings.
- riffraff 11mo agoOTOH could be siblings tend to be more similar as the smaller ones try to copy the older ones (my son would dress up as a ballerina to play with his sister when he was little, my smaller brother would acquiesce to play chess with me just to spend time together etc). I have given up trying to explain child development, there's just too many variables.
- fhsm 11mo agoAn adjacent point but despite ubiquitous birth order superstitions quality literature consensus seems to be that birth order is not a large driver of predictable differences. Example: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4655556/ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4655556/
- renewiltord 11mo agoWell that’s just > No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man
- there_is_try 11mo agoWhen expectations are bundled with trying, then yes disappointment is inevitable. Expectations are not a good reason to not try.
- kjkjadksj 11mo agoOn the other hand, you sometimes get identical twins who share every random tick and tendency and finish each others thoughts.