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"everything else is by negotiation" could either mean: we functionally share our finances - but for tax/legal/convenience reasons we choose to keep seperate acc

"everything else is by negotiation" could either mean: we functionally share our finances - but for tax/legal/convenience reasons we choose to keep seperate accounts... My experience is the opposite - generally the major part of finances are shared and there are small accounts on the side.. (things like cars etc are usually "owned" by a single person - but that's more of a convenience)

astrec 18y ago
we functionally share our finances... I've definitely got one mate like that, but plenty of others are the opposite. Sounds like we're probably not representative of the bulk of married couples though. In our case, by negotiation really does mean by negotiation: XX wants a new couch. XX either convinces XY a new couch is a great idea and we split it, or XX buys the couch. Works the same way when XY wants to concrete the carport.