"and he most likely made the choice that he felt was the least bad." The least bad for him. "mom had started asking for divorces by the time i was in my teens

"and he most likely made the choice that he felt was the least bad." The least bad for him. "mom had started asking for divorces by the time i was in my teens, and dad was the one who always said no. he would complain to her mother, a traditionalist, to ensure that she would berate her daughter back into line. his family and his culture had no place for him, so he used her as a shield to make sure that he would be spared the scrutiny"