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What Do Women Want?
- albertcardona 18y agoDon't miss Elisabeth Cashdan's paper on "Women's mating strategies", Evolutionary Anthropology, 1997. http://www.anthro.utah.edu/PDFs/ec_evolanth.pdf http://www.anthro.utah.edu/PDFs/ec_evolanth.pdf
- xenophanes 18y agoWomen, like men, want Hacker News to stay on topic.
- Shamiq 18y agoReading through it, I'm finding it's got a great story about a scientist doing her science. That should be sufficient to call it on-topic.
- petercooper 18y agoWhatever gets legitimately voted up from the "New" page is on topic.
- jodrellblank 18y agoNot so - there are On/Off Topic subjects mentioned in the HN guidelines: http://ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html http://ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- shrughes 18y agoIn particular, > Please don't submit comments complaining that a submission is inappropriate for the site.
- xenophanes 18y agoI think that's a mistake. How are people going to learn their submissions are off topic if everyone refuses to tell them?
- DanielBMarkham 18y agoIt's a known bug. (Or to the developers, a feature) Doesn't do any good to complain. Many of us have tried.
- Retric 18y agoNot really, people with high Karma can flag posts and get them taken down. This happens a lot more with politics than other types of controversial topics. Personally I could flag this post, but it's interesting AND novel so IMO it stays. Edit: "The story is on topic." (PG) http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=460159 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=460159
- DanielBMarkham 18y agoThe bug being the policy of discouraging feedback to commenters/submitters on exactly why their comment/article was down-modded. Meta-discussion, last I checked, was no-no.
- Retric 18y agoMeta-discussion is not needed. You can teach a neural net to dance simply by saying Yes, and No. The problem with saying "you did X wrong here is how you fix it" is many people only hear "Only do Y" where we want any acceptable submission even if it's on juggling (http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=418460 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=418460).
- DanielBMarkham 18y agoI've got the "interesting to hackers" bit. What happens is somebody makes a comment, gets downmodded, then wonders why. So they ask (trust me, I've tried this). Their question itself then gets downmodded -- meta discussions not tolerated. So the commenter, who is not psychic, is left with negative feedback from the moderation system without any idea at all what or what not to do in the future. This idea of treating HN as just a large dataset with contributors simply being data suppliers to train the neural net has some really big limitations. Last I checked, the board was full of human beings, and posting in some fashion approximates the social activity of having a conversation. The further the system strays from the social/linguistic/psychological needs of conversation, the less effective it is as a community facilitator, in my opinion. Meta-discussion might not be needed by the computer, but it's a natural part of human behavior and to the degree the system does not allow this, the system is broken. My opinion only.
- pg 18y agoThe story is on topic. On topic = interesting to the intellectually curious. Whereas this comment is not merely a facile witticism, but of a type the site guidelines explicitly ask users not to make. http://ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html http://ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- dreish 18y agoIt is -- it's a thoughtful and thorough investigation of a perfectly legitimate area of scientific study -- but it also smells like the sort of thing the hormone-drunk adolescents that rule Reddit go nuts for, so surely some people can be forgiven for dismissing it out-of-hand, especially given recent history here.
- scw 18y agoIf we want a community of intelligent, civil posters, asking its citizens to look beyond titles and examine the articles themselves seems like a reasonable expectation.
- TooMuchNick 18y agoSince I'm spending a lot of time on 4chan lately as research for an article, I got a fit of giggles when you mentioned the hormone-drunk adolescents that rule...Reddit.
- xenophanes 18y agoIt'd be a better topic if the title wasn't linkbait that encouraged off topic comments. And the article didn't start with a big kiss picture and a statement about making animal porn. BTW, calling my comment superficial violates your guidelines. It's not civil. It's not an argument. It's an insult.
- electromagnetic 18y agoI'm married, and I still have no clue what women want. I have no real clue how anything happened, just like 4 years later I'm married and the 15 year old that still controls my consciousness is stunned and amazed.
- Herring 18y agoA chocolate penis that ejaculates money.
- TweedHeads 18y agoSome want diamonds Some want love Some none of the above
- bbuffone 18y agoI would ask my wife but she is not talking to me. Too much time coding.
- nazgulnarsil 18y agoThe scientifically un-rigorous interpretation on my part is that women instinctively lie about sex much more than men. This is quite understandable as a woman's survival in the ancestral environment was most often about how effectively she capitalized on her sex appeal. This would involve pretending to be more aroused in situations where she was expected to be aroused (i.e. an alpha male wants her to be aroused) and not showing signs of arousal in situations where she shouldn't (don't let the alpha male see you lusting after a different male). Now the fact that women responded to a broader range of pictures than men I have no ideas about. Perhaps it is not an adaptation but merely a side effect of women being more empathetic. Do women have more/more highly reactive mirror neurons? Have any studies been done on this?
- likpok 18y agoMay I ask why you don't believe the alternative evolutionary explanation? Forced (to some extent) penetration has been with humanity for a long time, and will likely be with humanity for a long time. It was not until relatively recently that it is generally accepted as a bad thing, and even in our "enlightened" age, there is a great deal of misinformation.
- nazgulnarsil 18y agoI can't really think of a specific example but it seems that a whole host of things about humanity would be different if forced sex was the main method of procreation in the ancestral environment.
- motherwell 18y agoExactly! Removing the moral implications, rape is really bad PHYSICALLY unless the act is lubricated (the point the article makes). So a woman needs to be PHYSICALLY ready for sex, even if not EMOTIONALLY or MENTALLY willing. That leads to a decoupling of mental and sexual desire from physical response. Call me unPC, but that seems to fit the evidence they present!
- markessien 18y ago
- physcab 18y agoGreat article, although a little depressing at times. For example, I really didn't know there was a lack of understanding about where desire comes from in women. There was even a paragraph in there that mentioned that even with good relationships, desire is sometimes not guaranteed. As a male, I'd like to think otherwise...but science is science I guess.
- Tichy 18y agoSummary? The description of the experiment in the beginning sounded interesting, but then the article got carried away a lot. I guess the author wanted to milk the subject for all he (or she?) could. Only guessing, but I expect that the conclusion of the article is "no idea"...
- tdavis 18y agoI just ask them. That seems to work out alright.
- byrneseyeview 18y agoA lovely theory that keeps getting roughed up by the facts. People in a relationship are much too interested in signaling to honestly answer that question.
- tdavis 18y agoThat's why you figure the other person out before you get into the real "relationship", at which point you should know enough to be able to tell them what they're thinking, whether it's in bed or at the grocery store. I have never met a woman too complicated to figure out, given enough time and effort. It's like a puzzle. A puzzle with contradictory pieces at times, sure. That just makes it more entertaining. This is precisely why I love women, though; the more difficult the puzzle the more fun it is. I'm still searching for the one who can routinely surprise me, preferably in a good way.
- byrneseyeview 18y agoProblems with that: people are even more interested in signaling when they're trying to get into a relationship. Once you have a large sunk cost (e.g. announcing that you're together, moving in with each other) it's possible for each side to get away with a little more honesty. People are very hard to model thoroughly. I hope you're exaggerating in the last sentence of your first paragraph.
- tdavis 18y agoI don't think I'm exaggerating, although since I'm just basing it off of what I've been told by previous partners I suppose it's possible they've all been compulsive liars even when I don't ask a question, but this seems to contradict Occam's Razor. There's never 100% coverage. There are times when women act a certain way and I'll have no clue why or will do something I see as so illogical and completely contradictory to every form of reason that I just flat never see it coming. As for signaling, my solution has been to just refuse to play the game. I'll flirt because it's fun, but I make no attempts to actually figure out if they're interested. This is probably why I am abysmal at actually picking up women in the first place and why I never seem to notice they're interested until they're suddenly making out with me. Once that hurdle has been overcome, it's pretty easy though. Just because they're more interested in bullshit signaling doesn't mean they're going to refuse to answer questions or lie. Particularly, I've never met a women who wouldn't honestly answer questions regarding optimization of their pleasure. To do otherwise would be kinda silly. Also, I think this awesome quote is worthy of this thread: Receptionist: How do you write women so well? Melvin Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.
- dhimes 18y agoKurt Freund ... replied: “Who am I to study women, when I am a man?” What a lame quote from a "researcher." Are astronomers stars? Are geologists dirt? Are we to take this stuff seriously?
- tjic 18y agoThis isn't a regular researcher. This is a researcher in the "social sciences". ...wherein the word "social" works to invalidate the word "science".
- Allocator2008 18y agoSeems the research fell into two camps: 1) Women desire emotional intimacy 2) Women desire to be desired on more of an instinctual level Seems that these two forces, seemingly contradictory are just the ego vs. id. The ego desires intimacy, an emotional connection etc., and that leads to sexual desire. However the id, on the more narcissist side, wants to be wanted or "sought after" on more of a primal note. I don't think this is a contradiction at all. The id controls desire throughout much of our evolution, however, because long-term partnering has selective advantages by being better for the survival of the offspring, the ego side develops also which wants more of that emotional connection. This is not really that hard. The woman's ego wants emotional connection, the woman's id wants a primal connection of being desired. In short, the woman wants Richard Gere. :-) (Speaking as a gay man anyway so maybe I'm projecting my own psychology into it, lol!)
- known 18y agoWhat Woman Do Not Want?