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Sorry, but no. You shouldn't be running in crowded areas like food courts (or indoor areas not specifically created for athletics), and playing smug semantic ar

by Arainach 11mo ago

Sorry, but no. You shouldn't be running in crowded areas like food courts (or indoor areas not specifically created for athletics), and playing smug semantic arguments like that doesn't help. The kids aren't running because they're unable to go outside. They're running because no one's been enforcing that they act within the standards of basic decency. Kids should be screaming and singing sometimes, but you wouldn't tell someone in the library not to hush them.

bean469 11mo ago
> You shouldn't be running in crowded areas like food courts (or indoor areas not specifically created for athletics) I guess this is a cultural thing, i.e. what is expected of kids. Among my age-group in Eastern Europe (25-30 y/o), we joke around that our parents didn't let us stay in home, which has a lot of truth to it. Once we were out in the city, they didn't even have a idea where we went, and we didn't have mobile phones either. We used to run around everywhere without exception - malls, forests - you name it. That is still expected of kids nowadays, but the kids themselves are far more drawn to the digital world nowadays
- mlrtime 11mo ago
  And in Eastern Europe 25-30 years ago, other adults would have no problem yelling at you to behave in their own language/words. Very much different than today where people mostly mind their own business and judge in silence. I'm good with the former, it's inline with "It takes a village".
  - bean469 11mo ago
    > And in Eastern Europe 25-30 years ago, other adults would have no problem yelling at you to behave in their own language/words. Nobody yelled at us then or even thought that we were doing something wrong. If you would yell at a kid in a shopping mall for running around like crazy - people would look at your weirdly. It was expected of kids to behave this way in my culture, and still is to this day. This may not be the case elsewhere, hence why I think that there is a heavy cultural aspect.
    - mlrtime 11mo ago
      You're right it is cultural, I was thinking more Slavic where bad behavior from other kids isn't tolerated by adults and they have no fear expressing it.
johnnyanmac 11mo ago
>and playing smug semantic arguments like that doesn't help. How is it semantic? They go outside and now they are running in a giant parking lot. They go a bit further and now you're a bad parent for not keeping an eye on your kid. Tell them to sit down and play on a tablet and you're also a bad parent. There's no winning here. >you wouldn't tell someone in the library not to hush them. I don't consider a mall the equivalent of a libary in this situation.
- master-lincoln 11mo ago
  If you let your kids run around in giant parking lots I would argue you are a bad parent. That seems like asking for an accident. > Tell them to sit down and play on a tablet and you're also a bad parent. Yes. If this is the alternative to playing in parking lots that comes to your mind first, I really wonder what kind of experiences you had. > There's no winning here. Ever heard of parks?
  - rglullis 11mo ago
    I'm guessing you are talking with someone who is used to life in the North American suburbs, where kids need to be driven around and most of the options for activities are indoors.
    - johnnyanmac 11mo ago
      Sadly, yes. The nearest park is 5 miles from me or the mall. The buses run on the hour and will get you within 2 miles of the park. They stop running around 7pm. I wonder why more kids aren't at the park.
  - CalRobert 11mo ago
    How do they get to the park?
  - bean469 11mo ago
    > If you let your kids run around in giant parking lots I would argue you are a bad parent. > Ever heard of parks? I remember being bored as hell when my parents used to take me to the city park. Many other kids thought the same, too. I couldn't wait to run around with my friends wherever else in the city afterwards. I'm thankful for my "bad parents" for letting me roam around anywhere I wanted, as was the norm back then for kids where I grew up in Europe
waps 11mo ago
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bean469 11mo ago

> You shouldn't be running in crowded areas like food courts (or indoor areas not specifically created for athletics) I guess this is a cultural thing, i.e. what is expected of kids. Among my age-group in Eastern Europe (25-30 y/o), we joke around that our parents didn't let us stay in home, which has a lot of truth to it. Once we were out in the city, they didn't even have a idea where we went, and we didn't have mobile phones either. We used to run around everywhere without exception - malls, forests - you name it. That is still expected of kids nowadays, but the kids themselves are far more drawn to the digital world nowadays

mlrtime 11mo ago
And in Eastern Europe 25-30 years ago, other adults would have no problem yelling at you to behave in their own language/words. Very much different than today where people mostly mind their own business and judge in silence. I'm good with the former, it's inline with "It takes a village".
- bean469 11mo ago
  > And in Eastern Europe 25-30 years ago, other adults would have no problem yelling at you to behave in their own language/words. Nobody yelled at us then or even thought that we were doing something wrong. If you would yell at a kid in a shopping mall for running around like crazy - people would look at your weirdly. It was expected of kids to behave this way in my culture, and still is to this day. This may not be the case elsewhere, hence why I think that there is a heavy cultural aspect.
  - mlrtime 11mo ago
    You're right it is cultural, I was thinking more Slavic where bad behavior from other kids isn't tolerated by adults and they have no fear expressing it.

johnnyanmac 11mo ago

>and playing smug semantic arguments like that doesn't help. How is it semantic? They go outside and now they are running in a giant parking lot. They go a bit further and now you're a bad parent for not keeping an eye on your kid. Tell them to sit down and play on a tablet and you're also a bad parent. There's no winning here. >you wouldn't tell someone in the library not to hush them. I don't consider a mall the equivalent of a libary in this situation.

master-lincoln 11mo ago
If you let your kids run around in giant parking lots I would argue you are a bad parent. That seems like asking for an accident. > Tell them to sit down and play on a tablet and you're also a bad parent. Yes. If this is the alternative to playing in parking lots that comes to your mind first, I really wonder what kind of experiences you had. > There's no winning here. Ever heard of parks?
- rglullis 11mo ago
  I'm guessing you are talking with someone who is used to life in the North American suburbs, where kids need to be driven around and most of the options for activities are indoors.
  - johnnyanmac 11mo ago
    Sadly, yes. The nearest park is 5 miles from me or the mall. The buses run on the hour and will get you within 2 miles of the park. They stop running around 7pm. I wonder why more kids aren't at the park.
- CalRobert 11mo ago
  How do they get to the park?
- bean469 11mo ago
  > If you let your kids run around in giant parking lots I would argue you are a bad parent. > Ever heard of parks? I remember being bored as hell when my parents used to take me to the city park. Many other kids thought the same, too. I couldn't wait to run around with my friends wherever else in the city afterwards. I'm thankful for my "bad parents" for letting me roam around anywhere I wanted, as was the norm back then for kids where I grew up in Europe

waps 11mo ago

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