The big goal for most guys is to have meaningful relationships. The local goal(steps to get to the big goal) changes week to week or month to month etc. For ex

The big goal for most guys is to have meaningful relationships. The local goal(steps to get to the big goal) changes week to week or month to month etc. For example, when I started my local goal was only to be able to not be shy and to be able to hold a conversation with a lady I am interested in. Today, my goal is to be the best boyfriend to my girlfriend. If/when we break up, this goal will likely change. So even if your goal is to find the SO ultimately, there are steps to getting there. That said, I know it isn't for me but I don't see much wrong if your only intention is to have one night stands. It's not like you are dragging out a girl forcefully to do so; more often you are end up with a girl with also a similar goal to yours(vast majority of girls aren't hanging out in a bar looking for their SO...in fact they will find that idea creepy).