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It's not money. It's attachment to expectations. No amount of poverty or wealth will reduce your road rage. How you react to people not following the rules o

It's not money. It's attachment to expectations. No amount of poverty or wealth will reduce your road rage. How you react to people not following the rules of the road as you expect them is on you. If a toddler spills juice on your dress on your wedding day, rich or poor you're just going to have a stained dress and whether you scream or laugh about it really doesn't have anything to do with money. Money is an adaptation but certainly not the only one to unexpected difficulty. It is easy to fantasize that everything would be better just if you had x, but that's a scapegoat that lets you be the way that you are because you're powerless to do something about it... it's wrong. How you react to the world is in your power and it's free. And very often it's exactly the reverse, poverty isn't giving you a bad attitude, having a bad attitude is making and keeping you poor.

Trasmatta 1y ago
> No amount of poverty or wealth will reduce your road rage. How you react to people not following the rules of the road as you expect them is on you. Yes, but being raised in poverty can be inherently traumatic, and adverse childhood experiences (like those frequently experienced during poverty) can reduce a person's capacity for dealing with stressors. You might benefit from reading the latest research on trauma, adverse childhood experiences, and CPTSD.
- Refreeze5224 1y ago
  This is a very important point that many people are unaware of unless they have experienced it. Poverty leaves a ton of invisible scars that a simple change in bank balance or net worth cannot erase. These scars compound over generations, and explain a lot of things about modern society that people unaware of the effects of poverty attribute to "moral failings" of individuals.
  - Trasmatta 1y ago
    Exactly!! And this isn't just theoretical. There is a ton of hard scientific evidence showing that this is the case.

Trasmatta 1y ago

> No amount of poverty or wealth will reduce your road rage. How you react to people not following the rules of the road as you expect them is on you. Yes, but being raised in poverty can be inherently traumatic, and adverse childhood experiences (like those frequently experienced during poverty) can reduce a person's capacity for dealing with stressors. You might benefit from reading the latest research on trauma, adverse childhood experiences, and CPTSD.

Refreeze5224 1y ago
This is a very important point that many people are unaware of unless they have experienced it. Poverty leaves a ton of invisible scars that a simple change in bank balance or net worth cannot erase. These scars compound over generations, and explain a lot of things about modern society that people unaware of the effects of poverty attribute to "moral failings" of individuals.
- Trasmatta 1y ago
  Exactly!! And this isn't just theoretical. There is a ton of hard scientific evidence showing that this is the case.