I disagree with your framing this within a 'both sides' and 'male privilege' framework, but what you are alluding to is the psychological study referred to as '

I disagree with your framing this within a 'both sides' and 'male privilege' framework, but what you are alluding to is the psychological study referred to as 'Labeling Theory'. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labeling_theory https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labeling_theory