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That party graph is unholy. I live my life to reverse it and I really think one of the only meanings of life is just to party and have fun. I want the rest of

That party graph is unholy. I live my life to reverse it and I really think one of the only meanings of life is just to party and have fun. I want the rest of my life to be filled with parties, both hosting them and attending them. If you can’t tell, I love parties. Discovering that later in life was really a lightbulb moment. Humans were meant for parties. That’s what we were doing around the fire every night with our friends and family and it is just gone now. The horrible mental health and depression you see is from that. We haven’t evolved to not need that and I hope we never do.

cortesoft 11mo ago
This is funny because I feel the complete opposite. I am in my mid-40s now, and I go to maybe one 'party' a month, usually at a family friend's house for a pool party or a dinner. When I was younger, I thought I was SUPPOSED to want to party, so I went out with friends many nights a week. Sometimes I would have fun, but I would always dread it. I hate the noise, the crowded feeling, bumping into other people, trying to make small talk with people I was not that interested in talking to. I much preferred being home by myself, playing games or working on hobby projects. I remember in college I loved when I was too young to go to the bars; we would pre-party at our apartment and I would enjoy it for an hour or two, and then they would leave for the bars and I would stay home and do my own thing. It was perfect. I just thought I was supposed to like parties and going out. Then I got older, and I met my now-wife at work. On one of our first dates, we were going to pick up her cousin from a bar. We get there, and it is HAPPENING. Loud music, people dancing, people waiting in line to get in. It looked miserable to me, but I was getting ready to act like I enjoyed it... and then I look over to my future wife and she sighs and says "that looks awful". I knew right there she was the woman for me. We have been married for over 10 years now, and we still hate going out to loud events. We don't mind socializing in smaller groups, but we are comfortable that we don't like going to loud bars or clubs or big parties. We like staying home with the kids, quietly playing games or reading. We have also learned, through having our kids diagnosed and then ourselves, that we are both on the autism spectrum. We are no longer ashamed of who we are, and don't pretend we are the same as everyone else. I think people are different, and need different things. We can't assume that what we need will work for everyone else.
- kjkjadksj 11mo ago
  Socializing with a small group is still a party in the sense of the ur-human gathering around a campfire. Not every party is something out of Animal House.
  - cortesoft 11mo ago
    Sure, but even that is a once a month thing for us. If we hang out with others two nights in a row, we need recovery time.
- Invictus0 11mo ago
  But... you have autism? It's practically a symptom of that condition that you wouldn't like parties. It's like a person with acid reflux criticizing spicy food--like, how are we supposed to accept this as a criticism of spicy food and not just a personal issue?
  - cortesoft 11mo ago
    It isn't a criticism of people who like parties, it is a criticism of people who think EVERYONE likes (or everyone SHOULD like parties). I don't think it is only autistic people who feel this way, and even if it was, we are people, too. Our desires aren't WRONG just because they are different.
  - otikik 11mo ago
    Because people who like spicy food should not assume that there's something wrong with people that don't. Some simply don't like it. Human heterogeneity is a beautiful thing.
- rcpt 11mo ago
  One party per month in your 40s? You're basically Charlie Sheen
  - cortesoft 11mo ago
    I am counting going to friends house for dinner a party

cortesoft 11mo ago

This is funny because I feel the complete opposite. I am in my mid-40s now, and I go to maybe one 'party' a month, usually at a family friend's house for a pool party or a dinner. When I was younger, I thought I was SUPPOSED to want to party, so I went out with friends many nights a week. Sometimes I would have fun, but I would always dread it. I hate the noise, the crowded feeling, bumping into other people, trying to make small talk with people I was not that interested in talking to. I much preferred being home by myself, playing games or working on hobby projects. I remember in college I loved when I was too young to go to the bars; we would pre-party at our apartment and I would enjoy it for an hour or two, and then they would leave for the bars and I would stay home and do my own thing. It was perfect. I just thought I was supposed to like parties and going out. Then I got older, and I met my now-wife at work. On one of our first dates, we were going to pick up her cousin from a bar. We get there, and it is HAPPENING. Loud music, people dancing, people waiting in line to get in. It looked miserable to me, but I was getting ready to act like I enjoyed it... and then I look over to my future wife and she sighs and says "that looks awful". I knew right there she was the woman for me. We have been married for over 10 years now, and we still hate going out to loud events. We don't mind socializing in smaller groups, but we are comfortable that we don't like going to loud bars or clubs or big parties. We like staying home with the kids, quietly playing games or reading. We have also learned, through having our kids diagnosed and then ourselves, that we are both on the autism spectrum. We are no longer ashamed of who we are, and don't pretend we are the same as everyone else. I think people are different, and need different things. We can't assume that what we need will work for everyone else.

kjkjadksj 11mo ago
Socializing with a small group is still a party in the sense of the ur-human gathering around a campfire. Not every party is something out of Animal House.
- cortesoft 11mo ago
  Sure, but even that is a once a month thing for us. If we hang out with others two nights in a row, we need recovery time.
Invictus0 11mo ago
But... you have autism? It's practically a symptom of that condition that you wouldn't like parties. It's like a person with acid reflux criticizing spicy food--like, how are we supposed to accept this as a criticism of spicy food and not just a personal issue?
- cortesoft 11mo ago
  It isn't a criticism of people who like parties, it is a criticism of people who think EVERYONE likes (or everyone SHOULD like parties). I don't think it is only autistic people who feel this way, and even if it was, we are people, too. Our desires aren't WRONG just because they are different.
- otikik 11mo ago
  Because people who like spicy food should not assume that there's something wrong with people that don't. Some simply don't like it. Human heterogeneity is a beautiful thing.
rcpt 11mo ago
One party per month in your 40s? You're basically Charlie Sheen
- cortesoft 11mo ago
  I am counting going to friends house for dinner a party