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Okay but what if daycare needs you to pick up your kid? People expect to be able to reach you…

by apexalpha 11mo ago

SoftTalker 11mo ago
We managed these problems before everyone had a mobile phone.
- jodrellblank 11mo ago
  "What if you get an infection?" SoftTalker: "We managed healthcare before antibiotics, antiseptics, germ theory, sterilisation. Hah, gotcha."
  - DangitBobby 11mo ago
    That's why I make sure my kid is chained to my side 24/7, you never know what could happen. This contact-ability panic is fucking ridiculous.
- watwut 11mo ago
  Back them, they did called you to work and it was customary to rely message by two other people. There is no such desk anymore and they dont want to be handling your life. And if your kid needed to go home and sleep in bed, you had to take the day off instead of home office. There was price to that. Oh, and back then school did not expected parents and kids to have phones, now it does. Information about schedule changes, homework, what needs to be paid and such is broadcasted with the assumption that everyone has a phone.
  - lrvick 11mo ago
    If you have an unusual lifestyle choice, you simply need to communicate that to all involved. Any that do not respect it, you can seek out alternatives for. One clinic denied me for not having a Google or Apple account, so I took my business to one that would accommodate me. Rolling over and doing what the majority of people want you do to is not how change happens.
- apexalpha 11mo ago
  Yes but back then people also didn't expect you to have one. Society wasn't built around it.
  - lrvick 11mo ago
    Who cares what others expect? Say it is your religion, or digital dietary preference. When they see you working circles around everyone else because your brain can finally focus, they will generally back off.
PKop 11mo ago
Have your wife stay home with the kids, then you don't need daycare.
testing22321 11mo ago
Email. If it’s a real emergency Call 911. They’re better trained than me.
lrvick 11mo ago
I am near a landline 90% of the time, am reachable by internet during working hours on weekdays, and go to my desk to check emails and chats multiple times a day on weekends. It turns out you do not need to be reachable or online every second of every day to do virtually anything in the modern world including raising kids.
- apexalpha 11mo ago
  Oh, this sounds like you work from home and can just substitute your landline and PC for 90% of contact, this wouldn't nearly work like this for most people. Envy you a bit, though.
  - lrvick 11mo ago
    I had this lifestyle when I worked from an office, and at home, in both individual contributor and leadership engineering roles. I also travel quite a bit. Just set expectations with others and it works just fine either way. Only thing in the way is cognitive dissonance for most people. In my case people absolutely forgive not being able to reach me every second of every day because I am a productivity machine due to being able to actually focus.

Okay but what if daycare needs you to pick up your kid? People expect to be able to reach you…

SoftTalker 11mo ago

We managed these problems before everyone had a mobile phone.

jodrellblank 11mo ago
"What if you get an infection?" SoftTalker: "We managed healthcare before antibiotics, antiseptics, germ theory, sterilisation. Hah, gotcha."
- DangitBobby 11mo ago
  That's why I make sure my kid is chained to my side 24/7, you never know what could happen. This contact-ability panic is fucking ridiculous.
watwut 11mo ago
Back them, they did called you to work and it was customary to rely message by two other people. There is no such desk anymore and they dont want to be handling your life. And if your kid needed to go home and sleep in bed, you had to take the day off instead of home office. There was price to that. Oh, and back then school did not expected parents and kids to have phones, now it does. Information about schedule changes, homework, what needs to be paid and such is broadcasted with the assumption that everyone has a phone.
- lrvick 11mo ago
  If you have an unusual lifestyle choice, you simply need to communicate that to all involved. Any that do not respect it, you can seek out alternatives for. One clinic denied me for not having a Google or Apple account, so I took my business to one that would accommodate me. Rolling over and doing what the majority of people want you do to is not how change happens.
apexalpha 11mo ago
Yes but back then people also didn't expect you to have one. Society wasn't built around it.
- lrvick 11mo ago
  Who cares what others expect? Say it is your religion, or digital dietary preference. When they see you working circles around everyone else because your brain can finally focus, they will generally back off.

PKop 11mo ago

Have your wife stay home with the kids, then you don't need daycare.

testing22321 11mo ago

Email. If it’s a real emergency Call 911. They’re better trained than me.

lrvick 11mo ago

I am near a landline 90% of the time, am reachable by internet during working hours on weekdays, and go to my desk to check emails and chats multiple times a day on weekends. It turns out you do not need to be reachable or online every second of every day to do virtually anything in the modern world including raising kids.

apexalpha 11mo ago
Oh, this sounds like you work from home and can just substitute your landline and PC for 90% of contact, this wouldn't nearly work like this for most people. Envy you a bit, though.
- lrvick 11mo ago
  I had this lifestyle when I worked from an office, and at home, in both individual contributor and leadership engineering roles. I also travel quite a bit. Just set expectations with others and it works just fine either way. Only thing in the way is cognitive dissonance for most people. In my case people absolutely forgive not being able to reach me every second of every day because I am a productivity machine due to being able to actually focus.