As someone with a young family (multiple children too young to participate in any hobbies) a full-time job, extended family and a house to look after, I'd sugge

As someone with a young family (multiple children too young to participate in any hobbies) a full-time job, extended family and a house to look after, I'd suggest the "stop beating yourself up" route. Yes, you could be doing all sorts of cool projects, but it would probably have to be at the expense of other things. Cool projects will wait, but your family won't wait, and they will grow up in your absence. As you've stated in another comment: accept the pace. One strategy I'm trying is to just noodle away with whatever time is available. I doubt I will be able fit in a "change the world" sized project, but I'm hoping 1) It will be surprising how little time some things take to do, once a start has been made. 2) Once I'm underway, I'm hoping that time wasters, such as TV, will naturally be pushed aside as I find it is more enjoyable to do other stuff. One issue I'm finding is that's important to have a well organised workspace (mine is not yet). Otherwise all the small snippets of time get used up with finding things, rather than doing things.