'I'm sorry for how you feel' is in the same class as 'I'm sorry if my words hurt you'. They are both classes of non-apologies. 'I'm sorry that our actions caus

'I'm sorry for how you feel' is in the same class as 'I'm sorry if my words hurt you'. They are both classes of non-apologies. 'I'm sorry that our actions caused such distress' come a bit closer to being a true apology. Importantly, 'if' was changed to 'that'.