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Learning where you fit in the social hierarchy and attempting to navigate that hierarchy is more important than anything you’ll learn in math class. Even if it
by justonceokay 1y ago
Learning where you fit in the social hierarchy and attempting to navigate that hierarchy is more important than anything you’ll learn in math class. Even if it is embarrassing. It’s not like you graduate high school and then the bullies go away.
- throwaway150 1y agoThat's quite a claim. I'm not sure I buy it. We never had all this lunchroom social drama growing up, and my old mates and I seem to be doing just fine. Maybe you feel that navigating social hierarchy is more important than anything in math is because that's the kind of culture you happened to grow up in, not because it's truly more important?
- HollowVoice 1y ago[flagged]
- squigz 1y agoGenerally, once you leave high school, you have a lot more choice in when/where you are forced to interact with bullies.
- LtWorf 1y agoAlso, bullying in school has no consequences, but outside it might have some.
- squigz 1y agoBullying in school absolutely has consequences, and they're mostly going to be much farther-reaching than those suffered as an adult - getting messed up psychologically is more impactful as a kid, not to mention any physical toll it takes, or the impact of it on one's education.
- ironSkillet 1y agoI think the user means that bullies in school face little consequences, but a bully at work may get called by HR and potentially disciplined.
- squigz 1y agoOh fair enough. My apologies Mr Worf. I don't fully agree - plenty of shitty behavior gets ignored (or even encouraged) even in a workplace - but there's definitely some truth here.
- LtWorf 1y agoIt's way easier to change workplace than to change school, so I don't think it can get so extreme.
- pixl97 1y agoWith a workplace if you can gather evidence and document it there's a significant chance of a lawsuit with a payout. Schools are generally protected against that, and your only hope is to replace the school board, who is commonly bullies themselves.
- LtWorf 1y agoYep, so HR people occasionally learn a hard lesson when they don't do their job to cover for their friends.
- LtWorf 1y agoNo consequence for the bully I mean.
- ryandrake 1y agoThe exception being work, where a lot of people seem like they never left high school. Everywhere I've worked had the social totem pole, the cliques, the politics, the in-crowd and out-crowds. One place I worked was almost exactly like the movie Mean Girls. Lots of people just don't grow out of it.
- lmm 1y agoWorst case you can switch jobs. It's not easy, but it's a lot easier than switching schools.