"So the standard as you've stated if we take it literally seems to reiterate the idea that some behavior from charming people is acceptable but from awkward peo

"So the standard as you've stated if we take it literally seems to reiterate the idea that some behavior from charming people is acceptable but from awkward people is not. But it also sounds like that is not what you intend, is that correct?" No. Not at all. It has nothing to do with being charming or attractive, that you look someone in the eye first and evaluate their reaction, before making closer contact. That is part of normal human communication. So if someone really cannot do it out of being autistic ... then it is up to them to communicate their unability to communicate like normal persons. Those are exceptions. But there is also a big group of people who use autism as an excuse to be an asshole. In the sense not really caring what reaction the other person gives. And then complaining other people feel molested (I had this exact conversation with someone who thought it is appropriate to ask unknown women directly for sex, without ever daring to look them in the eye first).