Hot take perhaps, I don't really agree with this. It's the same tired "worth by self work" claim that is given for all kinds of personal issues. I won't claim t

Hot take perhaps, I don't really agree with this. It's the same tired "worth by self work" claim that is given for all kinds of personal issues. I won't claim that it's strictly false (obviously working on yourself is beneficial), but it's disappointingly and frustrating reductive. A lot of (most?) people get some sort of self love more or less by default, not because they are necessarily super self aware, but because their upbringing fostered that. They're emotionally normal and well adjusted. You don't have to be a philosopher to love yourself. For those of us that did not get appropriate love in their upbringing, or even learnt self hatred, we will spend significant time down the track learning acceptance. That's when you need a lot of self awareness, because you will need to uproot a lot to move towards a more helpful emotional system.