> insinuating my wife is acting childish ("she's an adult"). I was actually critiqueing you and defending her. One thing I have found in my own life is that so

> insinuating my wife is acting childish ("she's an adult"). I was actually critiqueing you and defending her. One thing I have found in my own life is that sometimes when I do somethign to help someone, it can undermine their autonomy, sense of responsibility, and independence.