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> But if you are like most people, you will tend to be too uncharitable. Consciously self-correcting to the charitable side can help. well you will be taken fo

> But if you are like most people, you will tend to be too uncharitable. Consciously self-correcting to the charitable side can help. well you will be taken for a ride in modern workplaces if you go the opposite direction. you need to weed out snakes.

palmotea 1y ago
>> But if you are like most people, you will tend to be too uncharitable. Consciously self-correcting to the charitable side can help. > well you will be taken for a ride in modern workplaces if you go the opposite direction. you need to weed out snakes. You do, but usually it's better to be more on the charitable side by default and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary.
- apwell23 1y ago
  its usually too late by then. you always need to be one step ahead.
  - hackable_sand 1y ago
    No. That's just paranoia. That makes you the snake.
    - palmotea 1y ago
      >>> You do, but usually it's better to be more on the charitable side by default and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary. >> its usually too late by then. you always need to be one step ahead. > No. That's just paranoia. That makes you the snake. Yeah. Also "and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary," does not mean that behavior has to have been directed towards you. If you're charitable by default to people, you can make friends and hear about things that happened to others. Also your friends can help you avoid working at places that are just dens of snakes. To put it in gamer software engineer terms: having friends can be like having a wallhack (among many other better and more important things).
      - apwell23 1y ago
        maybe i am just scarred from what happened to me https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45452724 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45452724 i am usually too naive but i am going to protect myself.

palmotea 1y ago

>> But if you are like most people, you will tend to be too uncharitable. Consciously self-correcting to the charitable side can help. > well you will be taken for a ride in modern workplaces if you go the opposite direction. you need to weed out snakes. You do, but usually it's better to be more on the charitable side by default and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary.

apwell23 1y ago
its usually too late by then. you always need to be one step ahead.
- hackable_sand 1y ago
  No. That's just paranoia. That makes you the snake.
  - palmotea 1y ago
    >>> You do, but usually it's better to be more on the charitable side by default and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary. >> its usually too late by then. you always need to be one step ahead. > No. That's just paranoia. That makes you the snake. Yeah. Also "and only be uncharitable when someone has behaved in a way that proves that to be necessary," does not mean that behavior has to have been directed towards you. If you're charitable by default to people, you can make friends and hear about things that happened to others. Also your friends can help you avoid working at places that are just dens of snakes. To put it in gamer software engineer terms: having friends can be like having a wallhack (among many other better and more important things).
    - apwell23 1y ago
      maybe i am just scarred from what happened to me https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45452724 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45452724 i am usually too naive but i am going to protect myself.