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Casual sex is an example of the crudeness and nastiness of the current era Have sex with friendlier girls. Seriously though how is that an example of it?

time_management 18y ago
Hookup-style casual sex is the ruination of unwilling participants' future romantic partners... unless you like dropping pens in coffee mugs. Ok, that comment was crass and bitter... but seriously: I don't think anyone should have sex with a partner who doesn't put the other person's emotional well-being at the same level of concern as his or her own.
- unalone 18y ago
  Our society encourages freedom of choice. That's a bad thing? I don't drink, don't party, most likely will never like casual sex. But I know people who do, and they like it well enough. I upvoted you here, since you're not being inflammatory and you're contributing to a discussion, but I also think you're wrong. Society is changing. Social attitudes towards sex never stay the same from generation to generation. It's each individual's choice to participate, though, and that individual freedom matters.
  - yters 18y ago
    At a certain point, free choice is unmaintainable. People obviously have to be self controlled in their personal lives. Since our personal lives affect each other, the need for self control must extend to the society as well.
    - unalone 18y ago
      How is free choice unmaintainable? There are people of both genders who like casual sex. Am I missing something?
      - time_management 18y ago
        Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners, and those who don't enjoy or do it disapprove even more. No one wants his or her kids to have a parent who slutted it up during college. I'm all for "free love", so long as it's actually love and not lust or something worse.
        anamax 18y ago
        > Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners I learned a long time ago to not tell other people what they enjoyed, wanted, etc.
      - yters 18y ago
        Casual sex is disastrous for society. You are at a high enough social strata where you are not affected, but it has decimated the inner cities. time_management wrote an excellent comment describing how monogamous relationships are key for civilization: http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=457614 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=457614
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- anamax 18y ago
  > I don't think anyone should have sex with a partner who doesn't put the other person's emotional well-being at the same level of concern as his or her own. (1) What does that have to do with casual sex? (2) Why do you think that that is new?
giles_bowkett 18y ago
and people call me a troll. :-p casual sex is awesome. although it does get old. but even then it's awesome. I'd rather have casual sex than a meaningful cheeseburger.

time_management 18y ago

Hookup-style casual sex is the ruination of unwilling participants' future romantic partners... unless you like dropping pens in coffee mugs. Ok, that comment was crass and bitter... but seriously: I don't think anyone should have sex with a partner who doesn't put the other person's emotional well-being at the same level of concern as his or her own.

unalone 18y ago
Our society encourages freedom of choice. That's a bad thing? I don't drink, don't party, most likely will never like casual sex. But I know people who do, and they like it well enough. I upvoted you here, since you're not being inflammatory and you're contributing to a discussion, but I also think you're wrong. Society is changing. Social attitudes towards sex never stay the same from generation to generation. It's each individual's choice to participate, though, and that individual freedom matters.
- yters 18y ago
  At a certain point, free choice is unmaintainable. People obviously have to be self controlled in their personal lives. Since our personal lives affect each other, the need for self control must extend to the society as well.
  - unalone 18y ago
    How is free choice unmaintainable? There are people of both genders who like casual sex. Am I missing something?
    - time_management 18y ago
      Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners, and those who don't enjoy or do it disapprove even more. No one wants his or her kids to have a parent who slutted it up during college. I'm all for "free love", so long as it's actually love and not lust or something worse.
      - anamax 18y ago
        > Even people who enjoy casual sex don't enjoy a history of casual sex in previous partners I learned a long time ago to not tell other people what they enjoyed, wanted, etc.
    - yters 18y ago
      Casual sex is disastrous for society. You are at a high enough social strata where you are not affected, but it has decimated the inner cities. time_management wrote an excellent comment describing how monogamous relationships are key for civilization: http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=457614 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=457614
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anamax 18y ago
> I don't think anyone should have sex with a partner who doesn't put the other person's emotional well-being at the same level of concern as his or her own. (1) What does that have to do with casual sex? (2) Why do you think that that is new?

giles_bowkett 18y ago

and people call me a troll. :-p casual sex is awesome. although it does get old. but even then it's awesome. I'd rather have casual sex than a meaningful cheeseburger.