As much as I like the idea of XMPP, I don't have good experiences from interacting with it. Neither clients nor protocol/server level. I've written multiple pa

As much as I like the idea of XMPP, I don't have good experiences from interacting with it. Neither clients nor protocol/server level. I've written multiple parsers along the way, back in the days when there was nothing else and more recently for use in very constrained embedded contexts. I don't know how much has changed, but it was more complicated than I would have wished, seemingly designed more to check theoretical boxes than for ease of use. I was also part of a project where the backend was implemented as a bunch of services communicating via XMPP, custom server etc. And it was a total mess, we spent a lot of time on manual intervention just making sure messages weren't dropped. Is this a common experience with XMPP or did I just hit all lemons?