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A coping strategy is something you turn to to "cope" with a problem when the underlying cause of your problem is beyond your direct control. If you are in a po
by lucideer 1y ago
A coping strategy is something you turn to to "cope" with a problem when the underlying cause of your problem is beyond your direct control.
If you are in a position to address the underlying cause directly, I've found it to be a better option than "coping". Therapy was a big part of identifying the problems. Ultimately, as a sibling commenter mentioned, task avoidance is often a sign of (usually very well disguised from oneself) underlying anxiety. I was always extremely confident & presented as "capable" but ultimately that was a shallow facade that became impossible to maintain over a long period.
I haven't stopped procrastinating but I do it far less & have a pretty good success rate with overcoming it when I apply myself. I'm not using any "tools" to do that beyond (hard fought) self-awareness.
- stronglikedan 1y agoMy problem is that I know the underlying cause is anxiety, and I still can't bring myself to do anything about it. Like, I have to book a flight for travel in a month. I don't much like traveling so I don't do much of it, and I'm traveling by myself. That anxiety, coupled with my anxiety from flying, have had me planning to book this flight for over two months unsuccessfully. There's a good chance I'll just make up some excuse to not go, even though I really, really want to. The anxiety is literally crippling.
- lucideer 1y ago> The anxiety is literally crippling. 100% identify with this & I would have made very little if any positive progress alone. I needed external help.