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I suppose it depends on the context. For some couples there has been some past dishonesty, and the location sharing can serve as a measure of accountability. Th

I suppose it depends on the context. For some couples there has been some past dishonesty, and the location sharing can serve as a measure of accountability. That doesn’t mean it’s always monitored (though I’ve definitely seen some people obsess over this to an unhealthy degree), but it helps the one who was offended feel more secure and keeps the one who did the offending honest.

lazide 1y ago
Until someone figures out they can leave their phone at their desk and do whatever they want, anyway.
- deadbabe 1y ago
  Exactly, all location sharing does is give a false sense of security. You either trust a partner or you don’t.
hackable_sand 1y ago
That sounds horrible.
JadeNB 1y ago
Trust that needs to be technologically mediated like that isn't trust.
- twodave 1y ago
  If you’d hurt someone by being dishonest and want to help them not worry you’re going to do it again, you’d be an idiot to deny them a little security by letting them know where you are going to be. Trust isn't regained overnight, and forgiveness doesn’t mean there are no boundaries or expectations.
AngryData 1y ago
If you need location sharing to trust somebody, you would probably be better off not being together at all.
- ilikecakeandpie 1y ago
  Hard agree. Location sharing and stuff like that is addressing a symptom instead of a problem. Just break it off if the trust is broken
- twodave 1y ago
  That’s definitely easier than trying to forgive and rebuild trust, but when trust is broken and both parties want to save the marriage, then I find it reasonable to expect proof for at least a period of time that the other person is where they say they are, doing what they said they’d be doing.
al_borland 1y ago
When you said it depends on context, I thought you’d give a positive context. Using as a means to try and restore broken trust doesn’t sound very positive. Plus, if the dishonest one knows the cell phone is being tracked, they can work around that. I was thinking of a one person realizing they need some milk, so they see their spouse is at the grocery store already, or on their way home with one on the way. They can make that timely call if it makes sense, and if it doesn’t make sense based on the location, they can add it to the shopping list. My sister shares her location with me and I will use it to know if it’s a good time to call. On Sunday she goes to church, but I don’t know when. I can check the location and see if she’s in a church or somewhere else, so I’m not calling when she can’t answer. I do the same thing with my dad, I will generally only call if I see he is at home, so I’m not interrupting an event he might be at.
- twodave 1y ago
  How is rebuilding trust negative? It’s maybe the most wonderful thing I can think of. And, for the reasons you stated, it only works if you’re attempting to rebuild trust, not trying to “catch” them being dishonest again. Just like any other form of accountability, it is most effective when it is voluntary.

lazide 1y ago

Until someone figures out they can leave their phone at their desk and do whatever they want, anyway.

deadbabe 1y ago
Exactly, all location sharing does is give a false sense of security. You either trust a partner or you don’t.

hackable_sand 1y ago

That sounds horrible.

JadeNB 1y ago

Trust that needs to be technologically mediated like that isn't trust.

twodave 1y ago
If you’d hurt someone by being dishonest and want to help them not worry you’re going to do it again, you’d be an idiot to deny them a little security by letting them know where you are going to be. Trust isn't regained overnight, and forgiveness doesn’t mean there are no boundaries or expectations.

AngryData 1y ago

If you need location sharing to trust somebody, you would probably be better off not being together at all.

ilikecakeandpie 1y ago
Hard agree. Location sharing and stuff like that is addressing a symptom instead of a problem. Just break it off if the trust is broken
twodave 1y ago
That’s definitely easier than trying to forgive and rebuild trust, but when trust is broken and both parties want to save the marriage, then I find it reasonable to expect proof for at least a period of time that the other person is where they say they are, doing what they said they’d be doing.

al_borland 1y ago

When you said it depends on context, I thought you’d give a positive context. Using as a means to try and restore broken trust doesn’t sound very positive. Plus, if the dishonest one knows the cell phone is being tracked, they can work around that. I was thinking of a one person realizing they need some milk, so they see their spouse is at the grocery store already, or on their way home with one on the way. They can make that timely call if it makes sense, and if it doesn’t make sense based on the location, they can add it to the shopping list. My sister shares her location with me and I will use it to know if it’s a good time to call. On Sunday she goes to church, but I don’t know when. I can check the location and see if she’s in a church or somewhere else, so I’m not calling when she can’t answer. I do the same thing with my dad, I will generally only call if I see he is at home, so I’m not interrupting an event he might be at.

twodave 1y ago
How is rebuilding trust negative? It’s maybe the most wonderful thing I can think of. And, for the reasons you stated, it only works if you’re attempting to rebuild trust, not trying to “catch” them being dishonest again. Just like any other form of accountability, it is most effective when it is voluntary.