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> If women feel like it is no longer safe to marry because they will be forced into equal custody, those rates would decline IIUC, the new neutral bias applies

> If women feel like it is no longer safe to marry because they will be forced into equal custody, those rates would decline IIUC, the new neutral bias applies regardless of marriage. If a woman is looking to create a kid whom she has sole custody of, then what she is really looking for is a DIY sperm donor. I'm sure there are plenty of men downright eager to sign a contract relinquishing any paternity claim/liability as a condition of dating. If you're talking about cases where a woman wants to create a kid, while retaining a unilateral ability to choose whether to have the man in the kid's life or not? That is a terrible dynamic and is exactly what needed reform.

claytongulick 1y ago
> I'm sure there are plenty of men downright eager to sign a contract relinquishing any paternity claim/liability as a condition of dating. Are there? I don't know. I don't think most men are as mercenary as that. As someone who was literally offered this situation (a lesbian couple I was friends with that wanted a child) I can say that it simply wasn't something I could seriously consider. How could I exist knowing that I had a child that I had little or no relationship with? A child who would constantly wonder about their father and why I wasn't part of their life? I don't think it's just me, I think most guys would have a problem with that. And maybe the ones that don't wouldn't be the best choice for being a father?
- mindslight 1y ago
  Sperm donors exist. It doesn't need to be most, or even that many. When I wrote my comment I was thinking of the many young guys that don't want to be trapped into settling down, but I agree when it comes down to it it is a much bigger mental hurdle knowing that the intent is to definitely produce a child.