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I think that "kick down, lick up" almost always fails in the long run. That's the most puzzling thing about it in fact. It doesn't really benefit anyone in th
by j_baker 14y ago
I think that "kick down, lick up" almost always fails in the long run. That's the most puzzling thing about it in fact. It doesn't really benefit anyone in the long run (including the person who uses it), but for some reason people keep using it, and others will keep them around for longer than it's a benefit to them.
- konradb 14y agoA person kicking down and licking up is too blinded by fear, and that fear robs them of the awareness of how counterproductive the strategy they are using is. In their haste to move away from what they hate, they take the shortcut which is to not look at it; to act what they feel is the opposite of what they hate. What would be most beneficial for these people is to confront themselves head on and examine why they don't feel comfortable and deconstruct their history, their reactions, their thoughts and their actions. But it's the strength of the fear they feel that stops them doing precisely this. A natural protection system no? Move away from what you don't like? Counterproductive to force yourself to move towards it and know it, but I personally find the more I do it, the more I benefit. Of course sometimes it can take time for the penny to drop. That's why I meditate. The pennies drop faster, and as the noise drops away you slowly start to pay more attention to yourself, and can move away from destructive behaviour.
- im3w1l 14y agoLick up works. I would assume people kick down not because it is useful, but because they get a perverse sense of enjoyment out of it.