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I think the key is to do the things you want to do but are afraid of doing. Personally, I'm pretty sure I'm not going to regret not going on an around the worl

I think the key is to do the things you want to do but are afraid of doing. Personally, I'm pretty sure I'm not going to regret not going on an around the world cruise, because I hate cruising, and have no interest whatsoever in doing it at all. I will regret not getting my pilot's license, because it's something I wanted to do since I was like, 5 years old. So, I'm working towards doing it. When we were children, we all had dreams of the things we could do when we grew up. As we get older, our dreams change, but all to often this change is a result not of us not wanting to do these things, but because we tell ourselves we can't do these things. That's what we regret. Do those things.

jquery 14y ago
> do the things you want to do but are afraid of doing. Perhaps this advice works best with people who have no self-destructive desires. For those of us who are merely human, though, we have to compromise.
- run4yourlives 14y ago
  Compromise is pretty much exactly the thing you shouldn't do. Is there something you really, really want to do that falls into this category?
  - jquery 14y ago
    Yeah. Lots of things. I'm a complicated person full of contradictions, foibles, and flaws. For every door I open, another one closes. There's no way to do everything I want. So I follow the path that I think will lead to greatest long-term happiness, even if, in the short-term, I have to make sacrifices.
    - johnchristopher 14y ago
      Exactly. We are not machines and we can't program ourselves even if the mass media and the motivationnal websites and that under 24 startup guy who built a webpage would like you to believe it.
Swizec 14y ago
When I was a child my dreams were far simpler than pilot's licenses and such (although what kid doesn't want to be a fighter pilot one day? Especially if Top Gun just came on the telly when they were ~5) ... all I've ever wanted was having frivolous amounts of money. The kind of money where I could buy fancy sports cars without batting an eyelid. What do I do to follow those dreams? Oh and I've always wanted to swim in a sea of gold coins just like that duck ... but I don't think that's physically possible. At least not on Earth.
- run4yourlives 14y ago
  Reductio ad absurdum, but nevertheless... If you really want to be rich, this is a trivial problem. Learn how to be a stock broker, and work your ass off. Problem solved. I'd suggest that if this truly is a goal of yours, you apply yourself to achieving it. My guess is that there are other things that you actually want more. Accumulating money is probably one of the easier goals in life to achieve, really. Most people place wealth somewhere down the list however.
  - jquery 14y ago
    It's trivial to become rich? Good one. #RomneyEncore Average stock broker salary, $55k per annum. http://www1.salary.com/stock-broker-Salary.html http://www1.salary.com/stock-broker-Salary.html
  - johnchristopher 14y ago
    > I'd suggest that if this truly is a goal of yours, you apply yourself to achieving it. My guess is that there are other things that you actually want more. Accumulating money is probably one of the easier goals in life to achieve, really. The American "You can do/get anything if you really want it" reality distortion field effect with its corrolary "if you didn't get it it's because you didn't really want it". And here we all move on to the next personnal development website with Mr Moustache and the Pavlinians at the helm. What an emotionnal bumpy ride.
  - dredmorbius 14y ago
    The easiest way to get rich is to be born rich. The second easiest is to be born lucky. After that, it's a lot of work.
anklos 14y ago
so how about things like this: I am married but I meet another woman who I cannot help falling love with. Shall I continue hang out with her, or stop seeing her(which I will probably regret)
- run4yourlives 14y ago
  One should always evaluate his emotions with a great amount of care. Be clear that I'm not suggesting in the least that a person should live 110% in the moment all the time; in fact the opposite. That said, I'm not sure why a person would live the rest of their life with someone they don't love out of some sort of imagined duty. You certainly aren't doing yourself any favours, and odds are you are making your wife miserable too. If you have truly found someone that you "cannot help falling in love with", then why wouldn't you be with her?
  - ak39 14y ago
    You're willfully sanitizing the anecdotal/hypothetical question. Imagine he loves his wife but is also falling in love with another ... Only he is afraid to pursue. Should he pursue or not? If not, why not? Is his sky-diving hobby any less "destructive" than his philandering? Ah ... like the blind Colonel once quipped: "when in doubt, fuck."
- agilebyte 14y ago
  You are married, but you did not say if you are in an open relationship ;)
d0mine 14y ago
It is not indisputable that 5-years old should dictate what an adult should do.

jquery 14y ago

> do the things you want to do but are afraid of doing. Perhaps this advice works best with people who have no self-destructive desires. For those of us who are merely human, though, we have to compromise.

run4yourlives 14y ago
Compromise is pretty much exactly the thing you shouldn't do. Is there something you really, really want to do that falls into this category?
- jquery 14y ago
  Yeah. Lots of things. I'm a complicated person full of contradictions, foibles, and flaws. For every door I open, another one closes. There's no way to do everything I want. So I follow the path that I think will lead to greatest long-term happiness, even if, in the short-term, I have to make sacrifices.
  - johnchristopher 14y ago
    Exactly. We are not machines and we can't program ourselves even if the mass media and the motivationnal websites and that under 24 startup guy who built a webpage would like you to believe it.

Swizec 14y ago

When I was a child my dreams were far simpler than pilot's licenses and such (although what kid doesn't want to be a fighter pilot one day? Especially if Top Gun just came on the telly when they were ~5) ... all I've ever wanted was having frivolous amounts of money. The kind of money where I could buy fancy sports cars without batting an eyelid. What do I do to follow those dreams? Oh and I've always wanted to swim in a sea of gold coins just like that duck ... but I don't think that's physically possible. At least not on Earth.

run4yourlives 14y ago
Reductio ad absurdum, but nevertheless... If you really want to be rich, this is a trivial problem. Learn how to be a stock broker, and work your ass off. Problem solved. I'd suggest that if this truly is a goal of yours, you apply yourself to achieving it. My guess is that there are other things that you actually want more. Accumulating money is probably one of the easier goals in life to achieve, really. Most people place wealth somewhere down the list however.
- jquery 14y ago
  It's trivial to become rich? Good one. #RomneyEncore Average stock broker salary, $55k per annum. http://www1.salary.com/stock-broker-Salary.html http://www1.salary.com/stock-broker-Salary.html
- johnchristopher 14y ago
  > I'd suggest that if this truly is a goal of yours, you apply yourself to achieving it. My guess is that there are other things that you actually want more. Accumulating money is probably one of the easier goals in life to achieve, really. The American "You can do/get anything if you really want it" reality distortion field effect with its corrolary "if you didn't get it it's because you didn't really want it". And here we all move on to the next personnal development website with Mr Moustache and the Pavlinians at the helm. What an emotionnal bumpy ride.
- dredmorbius 14y ago
  The easiest way to get rich is to be born rich. The second easiest is to be born lucky. After that, it's a lot of work.

anklos 14y ago

so how about things like this: I am married but I meet another woman who I cannot help falling love with. Shall I continue hang out with her, or stop seeing her(which I will probably regret)

run4yourlives 14y ago
One should always evaluate his emotions with a great amount of care. Be clear that I'm not suggesting in the least that a person should live 110% in the moment all the time; in fact the opposite. That said, I'm not sure why a person would live the rest of their life with someone they don't love out of some sort of imagined duty. You certainly aren't doing yourself any favours, and odds are you are making your wife miserable too. If you have truly found someone that you "cannot help falling in love with", then why wouldn't you be with her?
- ak39 14y ago
  You're willfully sanitizing the anecdotal/hypothetical question. Imagine he loves his wife but is also falling in love with another ... Only he is afraid to pursue. Should he pursue or not? If not, why not? Is his sky-diving hobby any less "destructive" than his philandering? Ah ... like the blind Colonel once quipped: "when in doubt, fuck."
agilebyte 14y ago
You are married, but you did not say if you are in an open relationship ;)

d0mine 14y ago

It is not indisputable that 5-years old should dictate what an adult should do.