I don't think anything is 100% hardwired. Sure you probably start with a mental preference for one or the other but you can change it. Now the question is: how

I don't think anything is 100% hardwired. Sure you probably start with a mental preference for one or the other but you can change it. Now the question is: how? How do you expose yourself to these kinds of situations gradually so that you have a chance to get used to it?