I've definitely done a version of this. Sometimes when my friends wanted to do something, I'd suggest asking someone who frequently declined and they'd ask wha

I've definitely done a version of this. Sometimes when my friends wanted to do something, I'd suggest asking someone who frequently declined and they'd ask what the point was. Well either our friend joins us for once or she declines, but if you at least ask she knows she was wanted and thought of. Pure upside.